Thread: Tell Me About Sex

If humans have anything near an objective purpose, it's reproduction - reproduction is the only reason the species exists, and the only reason it will continue to exist after all of us have died.

We are evolved to want to reproduce, and to reproduce as successfully as possible. This is obviously a very strong urge, and some people 'succumb' to it (not that that's 'wrong' or anything).

It really just depends on your personal values.

Sure..

Originally Posted by mjtbdreams

i dont get why noone willl wait to have it till mariage and they are with the right person...

is it thattttttt good?

I can tell you this;

Sex changes a relationship. Once you have it, your relationship changes drastically - especially if it is your first time.
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Yeah. Some people just don't want to wait till marriage. Personal choice.

Reproduction is among the most basic of human needs. Even if one doesn't have sex to reproduce, that sex drive is still apart of us. It is something that is, often, dangerous, if denied.

The necessity for marriage, on the other hand, is completely arbitrary. Outside of social and/or religious constructs, marriage is, in no means, necessary. Take into consideration the divorce rate, in America. In and around 2002, it was concluded that nearly (if not more than) 50% of all marriages ended in divorce. That rate has gone down, in recent years, although the distributions of those statistics have also changed, which kind of throws the balance off. My point is that marriage, while great in many situations, isn't always all it's cracked up to be; especially nowadays. Although I believe that sex that produces a child is best left to a married couple, it can neither be assured that any couple will stay together, in the long run, nor stated as fact that all sex should be done with the purpose of creating a child.

Sex (specifically, safe sex) will always be more intimate, for lovers, but it is just as acceptable, for recreation, if you ask me.

I haven't a clue. But I've heard it's 10 times better than going off by yourself, lol.

Personally, I'm still waiting. But I'm starting to get tired of waiting! G'ah~ x.x;

as people have said, it is not necessary, but to me, I dont want to accidently make a baby with someone who I couldnt live with. I think that is what started marriage, waiting to find someone compatible so that the child has a good father and mother to take care of it in a loving enviroment. I realize this doesnt always work, but that is how I plan to treat my child.

Originally Posted by TamiDoll

I haven't a clue. But I've heard it's 10 times better than going off by yourself, lol.

Personally, I'm still waiting. But I'm starting to get tired of waiting! G'ah~ x.x;

Last night you said you're 20..

And your hot.

What went wrong there?!











On a lighter note, to the OP:

Sex is tight. Literally.

Originally Posted by mjtbdreams

i dont get why noone willl wait to have it till mariage and they are with the right person...

is it thattttttt good?

Yes, and marriage is thatttttt bad.

Originally Posted by O'nus

I can tell you this;

Sex changes a relationship. Once you have it, your relationship changes drastically - especially if it is your first time.
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Really? None of my relationships have changed after sex. I don't dive right into sex with someone the moment I meet them, but I wouldn't say any of them really changed afterwards...

Originally Posted by Oneironaut

The necessity for marriage, on the other hand, is completely arbitrary. Outside of social and/or religious constructs, marriage is, in no means, necessary. Take into consideration the divorce rate, in America. In and around 2002, it was concluded that nearly (if not more than) 50% of all marriages ended in divorce. That rate has gone down, in recent years, although the distributions of those statistics have also changed, which kind of throws the balance off. My point is that marriage, while great in many situations, isn't always all it's cracked up to be; especially nowadays. Although I believe that sex that produces a child is best left to a married couple, it can neither be assured that any couple will stay together, in the long run, nor stated as fact that all sex should be done with the purpose of creating a child.

Sex (specifically, safe sex) will always be more intimate, for lovers, but it is just as acceptable, for recreation, if you ask me.

I 100% agree with you! Marriage is nowadays hard to take as a solid binding commitment to each other - the divorce rate is at 50% there or there about's, well it is in the UK. And you might think, well I am different, but is the person you are with different.

I don't see what all this waiting till I am married approach is for anyway. I mean if you love someone, then why not sleep with them, you kiss them, and have intimate moments with them, sex is just another intimate moment? Why wait till you have a piece of paper to say you are going to be married before having sex? What if you get divorced, do you wait again, or just have sex with anyone since you have already broken the seal?

Maybe I am a little cynical, but coming from a broken family, and seeing how so many marriages fail, the values associated with marriage depreciate with this, thus making waiting for sex till marriage a desultory thing to do.

Just my thoughts.

p.s yes it is that good

Originally Posted by Carôusoul

Last night you said you're 20..

And your hot.

What went wrong there?!











On a lighter note, to the OP:

Sex is tight. Literally.

Yeah. Turning 21 very soon. I was shy and a tom boy back then - that's what went wrong, lol. No dude wanted me, but now they come flocking when I'm taken. Also, I'm into nice guys. So they dun wanna scare me off or take advantage of my 'innocence' lol. Wait for me to make the moves... *doesn't make any* XD

And I totally agree with O and Adam. That's why when my baby gets his butt down here Imma pounce!

*sighs* Sex is a vile thing that can make even the most respectable men into pigs..

on the other hand... its soooooo good. IF youre with the right person, that is, and not some slimey underhanded bastard that jumps on every hot girl in town .. *glares*
No worries, tami. I was a tomboy ANd shy once upon a time.. still tomboy.. not so shy.. but im only 16 got years ahead of me.
Mostly its life is short, take the leap.

*zips lip and leaves*

Originally Posted by DeadDollKitty

Mostly its life is short, take the leap.

What if the leap makes your life even shorter?

Hence; don't take the leap. XD.



Unless your a male. We're pigs.

Originally Posted by DeadDollKitty

*sighs* Sex is a vile thing that can make even the most respectable men into pigs..

Hey a girl! Wanna cyber!?

"Waiting till marriage" is a man-made idea. I personally find it's worth waiting till you have a good connection with someone, but I won't think any less of someone who is more promiscuous. I find it sad that so many people think of sex as something vile and disgusting. Ah, social conditioning... where there is damage to be done, it will do it.

Psych testers say that men with trust issues usually do it by themselves...excessively.

Yeah, AIDS rocks!

Originally Posted by Marvo

Yeah, AIDS rocks!

12.

Originally Posted by Marvo

Yeah, AIDS rocks!

you could always wear a condom. Anyway it isn't like everyone has HIV. Turst your partner and don't sleep around, that's the way to avoid it.

Yeah…, I hate to shake your pride in the human species but monogamy in Homo sapiens is a cultural phenomenon, not biological. Some animals are naturally monogamous and some are naturally polygamous. Humans are naturally polygamous, but socially/culturally monogamous. The evidence for our polygamous nature can be found in the fact that we are sexually dimorphic (which basically means that the two genders of a species differ from one another in more ways than just reproductive organs). This is a tell tale sign of sexual selection, be it intrasexual selection epigamic selection.

Epigamic selection is what happens when females choose their mates, and usually do so based on appearance or behavior. Take peacocks for example. The reason male peacocks look the way they do is because only the most colorful and decorative peacocks would be selected by the females to mate, and over time, as these “more colorful than average” genes were passed on ad nauseum, the males seamlessly became more and more colorful/decorative until then end up looking significantly different than the females of the same species.

Intrasexual selection is what happens when males have to physically compete with one another in order to mate with females. Because of this, only the largest and most physically apt males mate frequently, and over time, the male gender of such species becomes larger and more “combat capable” than the females of the same gender.

This dimorphism is only caused by polygamy, because in monogamous species there is no sexual selection, meaning there is no sexual dimorphism. Humans are sexually dimorphic. In general:

- men are larger than women
- men act more aggressively than women
- have much more facial and body hair
- have deeper voices (calls)

All of which points to our species having evolved to its current state through polygamy, as we seem to have both epigamic and intrasexual dimorphism. We have probably been polygamous for millions of years, since before homo erectus and homo sapiens split-off from one another. Only in the last 10,000 years (maybe) have we been practicing monogamy…

Well said.
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Run, children, run!

I don't believe in marriage before sex.

I know that sounds glib, but it's how I feel. Sex is an important part of a relationship. If you don't have the chemistry, the relationship is not as solid as it could be. Why take a chance and marry someone you might not click with sexually?

In other words, marriage is for when you're sure. I don't think you can be totally sure if you haven't tried to relate on every level, including a sexual one.

Originally Posted by skysaw

I don't believe in marriage before sex.

I know that sounds glib, but it's how I feel. Sex is an important part of a relationship. If you don't have the chemistry, the relationship is not as solid as it could be. Why take a chance and marry someone you might not click with sexually?

In other words, marriage is for when you're sure. I don't think you can be totally sure if you haven't tried to relate on every level, including a sexual one.

I concur.

The only reason I can see to wait to have sex is because of the fear of hell or some other form of punishment. In addition, we can easily say that men manipulated this rule (from the good ol' days of Augustus) in order to maintain the double-standard; men get all the sex they want, with whoever they want, and women have to stay fervently loyal to them.
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