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No I havent gone off the edge and decided to probe into dv members sex lifes, I want to know if and when u came to realise that you care about someone you have never met in person and how you felt the first time, and basically just how people feel about online feelings, Ok i will elaborate with an example: |
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I have some history that touches on this, and I think I have learned a lot about the situation. |
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I agree, thats why until this particular person i never allowed myself to become emotionally attached to anyone online, I am kinda cynical generally and have always had problems beliving what people say on here, Is easy to lie on the internet, i mean whos likely to ever really find out. |
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I had my first online friend die this year, which was strange. It wasn't even anyone that I was that close with, compared to other people I know online, just someone I'd catch up with every couple months, really. It was kind of like a friend's mom dying or something, someone you hadn't really considered a part of your life, but it turns out they had this small role that's now vacant. |
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If you have a sense of caring for others, you will manifest a kind of inner strength in spite of your own difficulties and problems. With this strength, your own problems will seem less significant and bothersome to you. By going beyond your own problems and taking care of others, you gain inner strength, self-confidence, courage, and a greater sense of calm.Dalai Lama
Wish I could say the same, but at least I learned my lesson! |
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Eh, I've gone through all that, and found that whilst some of my online friends naturally drift apart, some still stay in touch and one I've pretty much gotten pretty attached to. Normally, I keep pretty detached, but even then, emotion can still get the better of you. |
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"When you reject the scientific method in order to believe what you want, you know that you have failed at life. Sorry, but there is no justification, no matter how wordy you make it."
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Just so I don't sound like I think it's always a bad idea, I should point out that I met my wife online at match.com, and we've been together for over six years now. |
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I like to think im pretty much the same person in real life as i am online, I dont lie on here because I think that to have to lie to justify who you are to people you dont really know or particuarly care about is kinda sad and doesnt say a lot for your offline life. I once met a local girl who I kinda knew through a friend i went to college with, we found each other on faceparty and became seriously chatty and jokey with each other, we both realised we were going to the same bar one night so looked out for each other, eventually we saw each other and i walked over to talk to her, it was the most awkward ten minutes of my life to that point. After the initial smalltalk had wore off neither of us knew what to say and i found myself desperatley trying to end the interaction by saying we were going to another bar in a few minutes, she said she was going there too ( the clubs and bars are in strip, so most people end up bumpin into each other over and over) All night we saw each other in diff bars and each time we just politley smiled and nodded. What was weird was that a few days later on msn we were back to normal, chatting, laughing and joking. We bumped into each other a few times since recently and again.. awkward small talk. so so odd. |
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It's not all that different from live friends that you know in a certain context, like skysaw's co-worker example. It can be great having a person around in a certain setting, and sometimes you can grow the friendship beyond it, but sometimes it just doesn't work. |
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If you have a sense of caring for others, you will manifest a kind of inner strength in spite of your own difficulties and problems. With this strength, your own problems will seem less significant and bothersome to you. By going beyond your own problems and taking care of others, you gain inner strength, self-confidence, courage, and a greater sense of calm.Dalai Lama
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