When i am dreaming i am not myself, all of my desires, ambitions, values and efforts change. I feel like i am just not the same person in my dream state, like i have no power there or control over anything.

If i am such a weak person in my dreams how am i ever going to take control, to be honest when i am sleeping it feels like i've been drugged out. When the consciousness is not really there, he can't really do much, and thats my case.

Any suggestions?