Hello everyone! I've come here before to read up on techniques and such before but I figured I may as well make an account. I've been trying to consistently lucid dream for a while now through various means, reality checks, WILD, playing certain sounds while sleeping and a bunch of other ways.

I haven't had much luck though, I've been keeping a journal going as far back as 2008, though I wasn't as consistent with doing it daily until 2011. I've had a few lucid dreams but they're usually a bit far apart, the main one I remember the most and that got me really interested in lucid dreaming was this (copied from my journal):

Spoiler for Lucid Dream:


That was a few years ago and I've had a few more lucid dreams since then but none that were as vivid or lasted as long, I usually don't have any problem with recalling a dream when I wake up, the journal has definitely helped with that. My main issue is that in all my "lucid" dreams since then I haven't technically been lucid, in at least every other dream I have I have the control over the dream you would expect from being lucid but not the actual lucidity.

I end up just mindlessly changing random or major details about a dream but I'm usually going along with the events of the dream and somehow just have the power to control everything. For example, I recently had what seemed to be the beginning of a nightmare, I was in a strange underground lab with bloody walls and I sat at a computer and got some creepy messages, rather then going along with it I closed the chat window, calmly stood up and completely changed the environment and had a different dream, though I had no conscious control over what I had changed it to and after that point I just mostly went along with the dream, changing small details that seemed out of place rather then using my control to fly or try all the things that I consciously want to do in a dream.

So, what I'm asking is does anyone know of the best way to proceed from here? I'm sure reality checks would probably work the best but I've been trying a lot of different ones and nothing seems to work, I try checking my hands and blinking to make sure they don't change, pulling on a finger to see if it stretches or something strange, double and triple checking the time to ensure it doesn't change when I blink but no luck.

You'd think I would notice I'm dreaming if I'm in control of everything in the dream.

TL;DR: Basically I have almost complete control over most of my dreams but I can't seem to actually achieve lucidity to take advantage of the control.