So question 1: Which of the two (or maybe you have something else? Tell me) is it for you? How do you experience normal dreams?[/b]
Hmmmm, I definitely know what you mean by the way that dreams are only memories, no recollection of being in there... that is always what it feels like when I only remember a flash of a dream. BUT... When I remember a full dream, I can remember being there, and doing this and that. As people have said before, dreams are different to everyone. My friends find their dreams to be a bit hazy, not as clear as real life. My dreams on the other hand.... I cannot tell the difference! (I am proud of that&#33

Oh, and your 3rd person thing.... strange. My dreams are always first person, except for once when the dream zoomed out and I looked over the whole dreamscape!

Question 2: How do I get more control? Attain lucidity with actual control? Even just being there and having a LITTLE control is fine, but I want to consciously stabilize my dream, etc. [/b]
Yes, it's harder for you. Maybe you should program or tell your mind that you want first person dreams? OR daydream about having first person, and it will pass onto your dreams. Once you get first person, try yelling and shouting and stepping on the cat's tail (awww, poor cat), and you shoulod gain control as quickly as the cat bites you.

Hope this helps! -Stoat