self-fulfilling prophecies

[Arutad]

For a while I've tried to understand how attaining lucidity works, and the only thing I can think of is being sure or unsure of success. I never used LD-methods, only "desire-induced" LDing, and I noticed that in most cases the less you care to LD, the more chances to succeed. At first it seemed strange, but it makes sense. It's as if caring creates an obstacle of fear to fail, which later works as a self-fulfilling prophecy. Fear of failure doesn't have to be strong and doesn't have to be a real fear, if it makes you worry a bit, it already creates a possible obstacle. It's difficult to deal with this, to deceive your own thoughts, and I know of only one trick. I don't tell others about my LDs at all. I noticed that when I start telling others, there's a big chance that they'll cease to happen or become worse. I feel like others are expecting LDs from me, it creates pressure, as if I must have them. That's why there's no LD count in my signature and nobody can read my dream journal. An ever better decision would be not to write LDs down to avoid redundant excitement and not to dwell on them, but that's too much! Maybe there are other ways to deal with it and tip the balance to the right side. Any ideas?