Thread: Not knowing what to do once Lucid.

Since a young, I have been having naturally occurring lucid dreams on rare occasions (~once a month or sometimes less). Whenever I did have them, everything looked and felt so damn real despite the fact that all I would be able to do was take in my surroundings but lose lucidity before I was able to take control.

Recently I have been having a lot more lucid dreams which I can control and which last for a reasonable amount of time. They are never induced but I think I have perhaps just finally learnt to identify clues of a dreamful state. Once I realise I am dreaming I find of just turn my back on the current dream and reject it and start walking myself onto a suburban road, change the weather to my liking and keep on walking until I find some people in the dream. Now I know this is kind of weird, but since I've never kissed anyone in real life before, I usually kind a dream character I am attracted to and kiss them. I'll stop after a few seconds though because the kisses never spark any kind of enjoyment/fireworks/emotions that kissing is supposedly meant to be accompanied by. After the kissing I am still lucid and will want to do something else but I can't seem to think of anything to do.

Every single one of my recent lucid dreams have followed this pattern of walking the streets - changing the weather - kissing someone - not knowing what to do. I want to do something of substance and fun in my lucid dreams but I don't seem to know what to do next. Is this because I don't have much of an imagination or motivation? How can I change this. I'm sick of walking around in my dreams.

Do you have a list of dream goals? If you don't, make one, and read through it from time to time, especially before going to sleep, it should help you remember your goals in the dream.
Also to increase the chance of remembering even more, try writing/typing more important dream goals right before going to sleep and/or use them as a mantra while falling asleep, i used this technique when i could not recall my goals at all and it worked pretty well.

Checker666 is absolutely right: try to write down a list of dream goals. In here, just use your imagination and don't be short on getting inspiration from several sources. I like to read other people's DJs and threads in order to get ideas at the same time I watch a bit of fantasy around the web.
This should be quite exciting because you're literally planning something like a trip but this one with any destination you want ^^

In a book I have been reading The Tibetan Yogas of Dreams and Sleep by Rinpoche, he lists several excellent dream goals, which I know I want to try out once I am successful at lucid dreaming again:

1. Change your size: make self as large as a mountain or as small as an ant, and experience dream that way
2. Quantity: try to multiply whatever you see, so that you see it in duplicate/triplicate whatever other quantity
3. Quality: if you find yourself in a dream filled with anger instead of leaving the dream, change your emotion to love and see what happens
4. Speed: try to dream in fast forward or in slow motion.
5. Accomplishment: whatever you have not accomplished in real life yet, accomplish in a dream (your kissing dreams fit in here, but think of something else you would like to accomplish)
6. Transformation: learn to transform yourself into another person / an animal / an object - whatever or whoever you want to try to be instead of yourself.
7. Try to multiply yourself
8. Journey: go wherever you want to go - to Paris, to China, to the Moon (you can plan those dream trips in waking life by watching videos or reading travel guides)
9. Try to see something you have never seen before (ex: atoms splitting)
10. Encounter: Try to meet someone specific (ex: Buddha, Christ, your favorite actor, your favorite singer, a politician, a deceased relative, etc.) - and try to have a conversation with them
11. Experience: use dream to experience something you never did in real life (ex: walk on the moon, scuba dive, fly,etc)

haha i know this feeling well.
my dreams are are almost always grounded really firmly in reality, i.e interacting normally with people and places i know, and sometimes when i get lucid i have to tell myself not to do anything boring - when i try and do something exciting, i usually lose lucidity, so i'm starting to slowly introduce exciting things - usually i would just interact with other people just to see how they react and stuff, but i've been building up the skill to morph the world around me.
I think people like you and i, with little imagination, could take benefit from reading other people's journals here to see what they get up to!
If you need motivation, absorb some fantastical media and day dream about being in an exciting situation you hear/read/see, and then try and implement that feeling of escapism and fantasy into the dream.

I think having goals is crucial. It's the best feeling when you get things done.

Thanks for all the replies! I'm going to start making a list of dream goals to accomplish. I had a look at the month task thing and might give some of those a go too

Hi guys, just calling in to update.
Even since I made this thread I haven't been able to have any natural lucid dreams so I have set some dream goals for myself and after reading a few threads on here have been attempting WILD.

I haven't been successful yet, but for the last two nights after repeating a mantra and relaxing myself I have experienced extremely bright and big blue flashes of light accompanied by a loud sound of some sort. I think this is the sort of thing that is meant to happen when WILDing(?!) but both times the flash and sound scared me into opening my eyes and when I settle down to repeat the process, I can't bring myself to do it again.

DOes anyone have any tips for not getting frightened by this and what exactly I am meant to do once the flash starts?

Also, how long does it take a person to finally lucid dream through the WILD technique?

Go look into some breathing techniques or some other form of a relaxer. The breathing technique really helps,trust me!