Thread: I'm Having Serious Difficulties In Controlling and Stabilizing My Dreams

Originally Posted by Redrivertears

Hey there,

For myself, I've found one of the mistakes I've often made when grounding my dream is to focus 'on grounding/stabilizing the dream', rather then 'on the dream itself'.

The division seems small, but is actually a world of difference. I've noticed a tendency in my dreams for attention/expectation to shape the dream itself. What I give attention to becomes more prominent in the dream. What I expect to happen, often will happen. Therefore, focusing on 'not having the dream black out' or 'preventing the dream from ending' is actually the wrong way to go, as it puts the attention on the 'blacking out/ending' part. Instead, I've found that if I just relax, take a moment to try and take in the dream scene around me and wonder about the sights, the sounds, the feel of things, the dream will quickly stabilize and I can go explore.

Hoping that helps (and that my description is actually clear enough),

-Redrivertears-

Thank you, I will definitely try this when I become lucid in a dream again. I think that definitely could be the problem and I didn't realize that I feel rushed to make it stable as soon as possible.

How would one get into a dream world though if they black out, and keep their eyes closed?

Originally Posted by Mostlythinking

How would one get into a dream world though if they black out, and keep their eyes closed?

You mean you have eyelids?

Originally Posted by Jacob46719

You mean you have eyelids?

Sorry, I meant if I blacked out how do I get back into a dream?

Originally Posted by Mostlythinking

Thank you, I will definitely try this when I become lucid in a dream again. I think that definitely could be the problem and I didn't realize that I feel rushed to make it stable as soon as possible.

How would one get into a dream world though if they black out, and keep their eyes closed?

I can only concur with what others have already said. Re-imagining the scene and focusing on whatever sensations, hypnagogic images, or sounds, you do find can get the dream going again. There's been quite a few times when woke up so much I all but felt myself in bed, but refused to give up the dream, even though it was hanging by a thread. A single image, sound, or feeling of touch can be enough to respark the dream, if you can focus on it.

-Redrivertears-

Thanks all for your help, I really appreciate it and will use these tips!