Zero control

[Feintingfox]

I've been trying to have lucid dreams since june but didnt have my first till october. After that i had 1 in november and december around the beginning if the month. In all three I couldnt control at all and then yesterday morning I had two lucids in a row. The first was me waking in my bed and seeing my girlfriend topless in my room which never happens so I realized that I'm dreaming. Once i realized I was dreaming I said aloud "I'm dreaming" then the dream immediately ended and I woke up. Then I went back to sleep and in the next dream i got out of my bed and just sort of knew that I was dreaming. Then tried rubbing my hands to increase clarity but it didnt work. Then I tried going to a mirror and changing my appearence and then tried spinning to teleport but neither worked. Once I stopped spinning i woke up. Strangely, neither time I did a reality check. i just knew i was dreaming Then this morning I had another lucid dream. I got out of my bed and my mom and sister were yelling at me (I dont even have a sister). Again, I just knew that I was dreaming for no reason as i went to the bathroom. I lifted my leg and peed like a dog while thinking once I'm done I'll do a reality check. I did the reality check where I hold my nose and breathe in and it worked. I had closed my eyes as I did the reality check but when I opened them, I was awake. All three times in two days, I had lucids where I just knew i was dreaming for no reason right as I got out of my bed. And all three times i woke up a few seconds after i became lucid and I had no control the little time I was lucid. I am hoping that I'll have another lucid tomorrow morning because of these strange coincidences but when I do, I want it to last more than a moment and i want to have some control. Does anyone have any tips or advice that I can use? Everytime I've had a lucid I couldnt control a thing. I cant even jump higher than normal or do anything. I really need help to control my dreams next time and any help will be greatly appreciated. Thanks

[The Tao]

The key to good control is practice. When I first started Lucid Dreaming, I couldn't control much either. Start with small things, such as Levitating an Object, or trying to fly. Or, if you can't keep the dream, work on Stabalizing Techniques first. Just start small. Steady Breathing when you realize its a dream, examining the scene. Learn to tell when your about to wake up, and practice various things (dream spinning, going to sleep in your dreams to start a False Awakening, ect.) to help stabalize the dream again. The biggest key to having control is to BELIEVE that whatever your trying to do, will work. If you want it to work, but don't really believe it, then it probably won't. You have to really know that its possible to do whatever, and expect it to happen.

[Hazel]

That was the way it was for me, as well. I had very poor control, and I became lucid not on reality checks, but just automatically realizing I'm dreaming. You just have to keep at it, and eventually they'll get longer and your powers will increase.

[Spiderman_859]

I'm the same way fox any time I want to do something my logic gets in the way of it. This one time I was in my hallway getting yeld at by a chick in a bonnet and I tried to jump through the wall... blam right in the face. I think it is one practice like Tao said and two expectation which comes with the realization that its a dream. I'd suggest you read the tuts on dream control if you haven't already.