Why didn't I mind being the second wife in my dream?

**Carrot** · 12-26-2011 07:29 PM

I had this dream several days back. I thought the theme was pretty obvious but now I'm confused and curious too.

The Dream:

I was walking along the corridors in my school. When I reached the girl's toilet, I looked at it in dismay because it doesn't look clean. An uncle cleaner told me to use the handicapped's toilet instead. I walked in to find that it's sparklingly clean and as spacious as a room.

When I sat on the toilet bowl, I find myself having difficulties peeing (Like always in most of my dreams). And then the room changed like magic, to a different room. Two women appeared in the room, one who's older than me by probably 10+ years old, the other much much older than me, probably a granny.

Then a priest appeared in the room and announced that I am the second wife of the girl who's older than me by 10+ years, the granny like person is the first wife. Afterwards we appeared in formal events in threes. With me standing on my wife's left, and the first wife standing on her right.

I was always holding my wife's hand, and tightly too. The warmth of her palm was memorable.

There were times when the granny suddenly changed and becomes my grandmother, I am not sure if my wife changes and becomes my mother too. Throughout the dream, the two people were switching between two unknown people and my closest family members.

On one occasion I was back in the magic changing room with my wife and the first wife again, and the room changed into one filled with pastries.

During the last scene, one moment I can see my grandmother, the next moment my wife was talking about how important I meant to her. After she finished saying, she gave me a big side hug. In my dream, I was visualising the ring in my pocket when she was hugging me.

Overall, the dream gave me a very bliss feeling and I hoped it would last. And after the dream, I have a whole new concept on mistresses and second wives.

Any ideas what the dream meant and why I didn't mind being the second wife?

**Carrot** · 12-27-2011 10:04 AM

A little help here? Bumps.

**Darkmatters** · 12-27-2011 10:31 AM

Hmmm that's got me fairly stumped.

One thing to keep in mind though is that in dreams things usually don't mean what they seem to, instead they often represent something else. It sounds like the term wife is used here just to represent a close bond.

**Carrot** · 12-27-2011 10:43 AM

Thanks for your reply.

Hmm. But after the dream. I just sat up and thought that I probably wouldn't mind if I'm not the most important person in my partner's heart.

**Darkmatters** · 12-27-2011 10:48 AM

I suspect if you're talking about a lover or husband or whatever, the only way that would be true is if the other person is his/her child.

I honestly think the dream was telling you something about family life rather than love or romance. But then, like I say, it didn't really slap me in the face with any particular meaning, so I wouldn't swear to anything.

**Carrot** · 12-27-2011 11:12 AM

Well I'll just leave the dream at there then. It might also be a hint that I'm having a lack of security now as well.

**Darkmatters** · 12-30-2011 11:07 PM

Hey Carrot, you said elsewhere on the board that you're having a lot of bathroom dreams, so I thought you might want to see this:

Toilet
To see a toilet in your dream symbolizes a release of emotions. You need to get rid of something in your life that is useless. Seeing a toilet in your dream may also be a physical manifestation brought about by a full bladder. The dream is attempting to get you up and to the bathroom. If you are cleaning the toilet, then it means that you are starting to shed your outer wall or lose your inhibitions.

To see a clogged toilet in your dream suggests that you are holding and keeping your feelings to yourself. Your emotions have been pent up too long and you need to let go of the negative feelings.

To see an overflowing or flooded toilet in your dream denotes your desires to fully express your emotions

Bathroom
To dream that you are in the bathroom, relates to your instinctual urges. You may be experiencing some burdens/feelings and need to "relieve yourself". Alternatively, a bathroom symbolizes purification and self-renewal. You need to cleanse yourself, both emotionally and psychologically.

To dream that you are in a public restroom with no stalls or that there are a lot of people around while you are trying to do your business signifies your frustrations about getting enough privacy. You are always putting others ahead of your own needs. As a result, you are lacking a sense of personal space. Alternatively, the dream indicates that you are having difficulties letting go of old emotions. You are afraid that if you reveal these feelings, then others around you will judge and criticize you. If you dream that you are in a bathroom meant for the opposite sex, then it suggests that you are overstepping your boundaries.You have crossed the line in some situation.

To dream that you can not find the bathroom or that you have difficulties finding one indicates that you have difficulties in releasing and expressing your emotions. You are holding back your true feelings about something.

Source: Dream Moods: Your Dream Symbol Interpretation