MicrobioNerd, thank you for the feedback and congratulations for making family history with your scholastic achievements. This does bring up both pride and concern about keeping one’s ego in check. What you have told me reveals what the real problem here might be. You seem concerned that you are “fumbling your way through everything and going on instinct” – as if the mind should give you all the answers. The 1st dream shows that your mind has acquired some status and respect (you look up to the man) and bends over to kiss the bridge of the woman’s(or your) nose. This could be regarded as a slightly condescending move, implying that your mind could be showing affection for your instinctive knowing in a rather condescending manner. This means you’d be left to feel that “going on instinct” is not the way to go at all when in fact, where new situations are encountered and choices have to be made instincts should not be ruled out. You may need to be careful not to let your head take over completely especially, since as a female, your emotional nature and instincts have a right to be heard. A proper balance needs to be maintained. The dirty blond hair does definitely seem to apply to the negative thinking the mind comes up with and might also apply to a spiritual situation.

As for the 2nd dream, I can see now that it is more spiritually oriented than I had originally assumed. Your statement to the effect that, “the bathing suit could be my mind still trying to keep things on a leash by not allowing us both to be naked and the moment to become too intimate” is interesting but has one slight flaw. It is not the mind (represented by the man) who is not ready for becoming intimate. The man is naked and ready for an intimate moment. It is you in the bathing suit, i.e. it is the True Self who reflects God’s thinking who is not ready for such a moment. What I did not mention is that the bathing suit implies having a function that is spiritual in nature (as it is worn in a pool of water). A spiritual situation is Holy Matrimony and a spiritual function is wifely sex. The leash as you call it, is coming from your own inner and more instinctual nature which will speak for the True Self and God – unless you have allowed the mind to overrule your own instincts.

In answer to Hathor’s questions: “How can a man represent your mind? It don’t make sense to me. You mean subconscious?”
To put it simply, people often say use your head/mind, implying, think rationally and logically. Men are known to think more logically while women tend to be more emotional. {Of course there are exceptions – but in general this hold true.} Thus men have been chosen to represent the mind and logical thinking and women the emotions. It is a psychological tool to help us view the functioning of the two aspects of any human – the mind and the emotions – as they appear through dreams.

I very definitely do not mean subconscious. Any human image (male or female) is a rational image (designed in the image of a rational God) which implies it is one belonging to the conscious mind. Only an animal image can be considered a subconscious image, but never a human. People throw about the term subconscious much too freely, applying it where it does not apply at all.