Ex's Sister on my Lawn

[warriorof]

Can someone help me interpret this dream I had? I had this dream last night (April 7th, 2013). Before I type the dream I'll give some info. My ex and I broke up around the holidays because I found out she was "seeing" someone else. We've been together 4.5 years and moved in a year and half prior to our breakup. My ex's sister, whose always been trying to break us up since the beginning, and my ex's best friend, encouraged her to see someone else because "I was just her 1st BF" and she was attracted to him. Even though she stopped seeing the guy before I broke it off, shes been seeing him for at least two months, and having lost my trust for her broke it off. After we broke up, she texted me for awhile saying she was sorry and she still wanted to talk and maybe get back together. I said "no way" at first, but after careful consideration from her intuitive aunt I decided to start talking to her anyway, but I had no intention of ever getting back with her. Even now I don't want her back as more than a friend. After a month of texting she decided that she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I asked her why and she said "cuz I need space and I just want to be acquaintances with you." After literally a month I started thinking about her randomly non-stop, which usually means something - usually bad - is going to happen or is happening to a person I know, so I texted her just saying hi. Her brother told me she didn't want to say anything cuz shes still not ready, so I just decided to cut her off completely and discontinue asking how she is, texting, her, etc. It's been a week after I made this decision. As a side note I'm still grudging with her sister and friend. Our relationship prior was good. She had jealousy issues and insecurity issues. Also very sensitive to negative emotions and would feel overwhelmed if we got in even minor arguments. I still cared about her and we had the same interest and beliefs. About me: I am 27 and studying martial arts and am close to my black belt. I am currently attending college for computer science. I also run, lift weights and draw. (Sorry for the top part being so long) =================================DREAM FOR INTERPRETATION========================================= I went outside to get the mail and I saw my Ex's sister walk to my front yard, and walked past her. The sky was cloudy and the clouds were silver. I asked her "do you need something?" and I felt angry yet controlled. She told me in a nice way with a smile that she wanted me to help her cross-train. I felt surprised she wanted me to do this. I got the mail and went back inside the house, then I shut the screen door. I could still see her through the holes. I told her that I'm not sure yet but probably not. I felt mad but not as before, but somewhat intrigued by her request. Then she told me that it was time for me to bury the hatchet with my ex and I should talk to her (or something to that effect). I told her that I wouldn't do that because she lied to me and I don't trust her. I became more upset again and hurt thinking about my ex. She told me that my ex lied to me because I lied to her when I first met her (I told my ex when we first met that I had GFs before I met her but I didn't. I was trying to impress her but she found out and wasn't), and after she lied to me she keeps making up more lies about what she did to me when she talks to her sister about me. Then I woke up.

[travellight27]

"Going outside to get the mail" represents you are wanting to or expecting some kind of communication. Instead of perhaps hearing from the ex who you probably wanted to hear from you meet the ex's sister or meet the part of your ex, represented by the sister (similar traits). She said she wanted you to help her "cross train". Well if in real life cross training is not a part of it, then her approach was insincere .......Seeing thru the door or seeing thru the holes in the screen mean "you saw thru her to the truth" and know she is still insincere and I believe this is representing your ex, not the sister, and they are both insincere. Seeing the clouds and seeing the silver gives reference to even though the sky was cloudy or gloomy there is a silver living to every cloud, in other words , there will be something of benefit or joy from these events in real life that will bring you happiness. The next part where the sister says it's time to "bury the hatchet" could be another way of saying it's time to let go of the relationship (bury it, cut it off) The last part about her saying you lied about the past (having relationships) whether in the dream or for real, seems as she is being very small minded as not having had a previous relationship would be hard for any man to admit, and you have a right to not share those kinds of personal things with anyone. To sum it up...based on the dream and your personal comments about it, to me the dream is saying the relationship is not based in trust and loyalty...combined with the fact the ex may be a little immature for a committed relationship, wish her well in your thoughts, stay away and open the door for a relationship more suited to who your are. just my thoughts TL

[warriorof]

Thanks for your reply, tavellight. Your interp made a lot of sense. You basically described how I feel about the situation and how shes handling it. And the silver lining makes sense too, as I have other prospects. Thanks!