Another thought: aside from getting used to traits such as carelessness or other things that may tick you off but you cannot change about him, you also have to get used to the fact that some things that used to be just yours alone will now be shared, you will have shared possessions and your mind is adjusting to thinking about things as ours rather than mine. You may find that things that have personal history for you may get carelessly treated because until he learns about how much they mean to you, he won't know, so your precious tablecloth might get stained, or your mug that you got from your grandmother might get chipped.
My mother had a doll that was her favorite doll from when she was a kid, and she had it on display, and when I wasa little girl I am told I wanted to play with it, but my mother would not let me because this was her special doll, and i was a small kid and would likely be careless with it. So my father went out and bought me an even prettier even bigger doll. When my mother saw how much I loved the new doll, she felt guilty and she gave me her doll to play with as well.
Marriage and or kids will change one's life in many ways, and possessions are one of them. My iPad is barely mine, it belongs to my kids more than to me though I will not admit it to them. I do not have a favorite childhood bike, but if I did, I doubt it would remain mine. Not that I do not have anything that is just mine (my toothbrush is mine for example
but fewer things are, and this dream may be in part due to you realizing this and being concerned over it.
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