Grossed out by dream of older man kissing young fighter girl- twice this week

**LeapYear** · 10-09-2013 05:08 PM

Apparently this image means something, because I've had two similar dreams in the last week.

In the first dream, my father is kissing my former college roommate, a gorgeous 19-year-old tae kwon do instructor. My main emotion is being repulsed, with all of that directed at my father - "She's a baby, she's my friend, you are MARRIED!" I woke up feeling grossed out. I was jealous of this friend for her beauty (my crush was obsessed with her).

Last night I dreamed of two characters from a show I watch ("Revolution" fwiw). The uncle, an older man, is super passionately kissing his 19-20ish fighter niece. People all around were chastizing him, "You're RELATED!"

In both dreams, the girls had basically no volition or responsibility in what was going on, to the point where they were almost non-persons.

I'm having a hard time decoding this one. I'm not having any problems with authority figures in my life. I'm a young married 20-something, and we're having trouble finding employment sufficient to provide for a baby, so starting a family is on hold for the moment, and I hate that. That's my life in a nutshell. I'm just kind of baffled, and would love your take on this dream. Thank you!

**riveroflaroo** · 10-09-2013 06:43 PM

I must admit I do not have any interpreation for you. However.. there are a few clues here that you might want to look at.

In both dreams you deal with the masculine and older doing something you find immoral or inappropriate.
In both dreams they are "doing" the inappropriate actions towards a younger female.

The first thing that came to mind when I read this dream, was that it is dealing with a conflict within between the immature female side and the more mature masculine side of your personality. Maybe there is some part of you that want to remain with the adolescent part of life. Not having to care about the duties of the grown-up world?

You say you have to put having a child on hold due to economical reasons. Maybe these dreams talks about your frustration on this subject. The older males may represent the society and the younger, somewhat apathetic younger girls/women represent your lack of will to accept the way you perceive the society?

Of course, I might be all wrong, but I do think your dreams talk about the conflict between some part of your feminine and masculine side. Seeing as the males are the ones doing something, I would look at what the dreams are telling me about taking action, if I were you.

(Sorry for being a bit messy in the way I answer.. I tend more to brainstorm rather than thinking it through to much)

**JoannaB** · 10-09-2013 10:04 PM

I am going out on a limb here, and it can be completely wrong:
(1) Maybe you are grossed out by how this patriarichical society of ours takes advantage of women or of young people? You mention that you can't afford having a baby now, so I am trying to weave that in somehow.
(2) if not, is there anything that has grossed you out in waking life lately? Does not have to be anything like the dream, but maybe this dream is just about the emotion of "being grossed out"
(3) the dreams are about the breaking of taboos and shocking you. You know sometimes I also get taboo breaking dreams, dreams that are about something that is taboo for me in waking life, and I wonder whether these dreams are about reinforcing the taboos in my mind and confirming them, or whether they are about getting my adrenaline to flow. Keep in mind that our minds know how to "push our buttons", and I think sometimes they just do.
(4) the dreams are about family members doing something wrong: has anyone in your family dine anything wrong in your mind lately, or do you think you have done anything wrong in your relation to family. Come to think this could be maybe about putting the plan for family on hold, breaking the expectation of what a family member would be expected to do (in your waking life the expectation of having a baby), and how sick it makes you feel that it has come to that - that it is just wrong.

Of course, all these ideas may be wrong, and if any sound wrong, please disregard them.

**LeapYear** · 10-10-2013 02:35 AM

Thank you for your thoughts, ladies!

I think you're both on the right track. Perhaps this is tied back to my have-to-wait-to-have-a-baby situation. I could see that it feels wrong - "taboo" - that my logical, more masculine side is controlling things, and my feminine, emotionally-based side is powerless, feeling taken advantage of. Interesting though, that both of the girls were athletic/fighters - maybe a nod to the strength of my desire to have a child.

I appreciate your time and thoughts! Thanks again!