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Hi, I'm new here and am looking for help regarding a dream I've had twice now about my best friend. He's been recovering from a terrifying trauma and has been making amazing progress, his mom not so much. I've been standing up for her, trying to understand that she's having a hard time dealing with things, but she's crossed the line too many times now. |
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Last edited by DreamscapeGoat; 12-04-2013 at 03:30 AM. Reason: wording
DILD - 42 | WILD - 14 | OBE - 0 | AP - 0
No, she is currently under the care of a psychiatrist and is not suppose to have contact with him until he is able to deal with it. They were very close, his dad passed away a few years ago. Her doctor thinks she may be suffering from a long-term depression, but it really freaked me out that I was the one killing him, and her laugh when he was dead made me want to puncture my eardrums. |
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It sounds like you're afraid she might want you to end the friendship (killing him as a metaphor for it), or maybe she represents a part of yourself that's afraid it might end. It could also be that you're exploring the idea of their negative relationship - a mother is supposed to be protective and nurturing, and to discover she isn't like that is shocking and takes some getting used to. It's very common when mothers behave badly toward their children people refuse to acknowledge or accept it even when it's done right in front of their eyes - it's definitely the kind of thing your mind would need to wrestle with in order to fully accept it as reality, and dreams like this are the mind's way of exploring new ideas and grappling with them. |
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Last edited by Darkmatters; 12-04-2013 at 05:17 AM.
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*Moved to Dream Interpretation* |
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Been previously known as Checker666
What if the dream incident is not literally about killing, but rather symbolically represents another meaning of the word "smother" or "soffocate"? It sounds like your friend needs some "breathing" room right now to recover, and maybe you are worried that you also are contributing to his stress somehow, not giving him enough rest? People are said to suffocate other people emotionally, not just with pillows. Perhaps you are worried about how to be a good friend and not disturb your friend at this time, for example if you are worried of how much of your own issues to share with him, or his mother's issues? You might be worried how often it is ok to visit or call, and how long to stay when you visit without tiring him out. Something innocent like that I think could symbolically translate to such a disturbing dream. |
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You may say I'm a dreamer.
But I'm not the only one - John Lennon
I think that might also be a possibility. We are all protective of him and his sister right now and I feel guilty for defending his mom's behaviour until the last incident. He has been making amazing progress but I guess the "big sister" in me just doesn't want him to be hurt again. We've all tried to realize that he needs his space, but I admit it is hard to let him out of my sight for very long. I guess because I almost lost him once I'm terrified that it could happen again. |
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What a complicated dream. I love the interpretations here. |
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I DO feel guilty and I think I've been overcompensating by trying to make sure he isn't alone and knows that we are here for him. He can't be alone and KNOWS we're here and has told me that he feels badly that we are giving up so much of our lives to be with him. We've all told him that there is no other place we'd rather be and that he would do the same for us. Our families have been close since we were about four years old. our parents are also best friends. On one hand I feel so badly for his mom, none of this is easy, but she just doesn't get how badly she hurt him and everyone by NOT doing what she was suppose to in order to help herself. On the other hand I am SO angry at her for not following through and taking care of herself that I can't even talk to her right now. We all just want to everything to be normal again. |
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