Thread: Dream of me holding a toddler - cooking with pans on a burner stove - metal melting together

Hello, clairedelune. I saw your name, and had to listen to it again on youtube while I read your dream. It's been a while since I've heard that one! Thanks for reminding me of it.

I'd like to try to interpret this dream as best I can, based on the information you gave.

The dream begins with you holding a toddler, in an unfamiliar home, the two of you are bonding, and you know he's not your child, but you're not sure if you're planning on adopting him, or if he's from your past.

Firstly, I want to say that I think that this version of "you" represents your emotional side.

I think this child represents the relationship with that special someone you mentioned, which you gave up on a month ago, and are thinking about trying to rekindle in the next 6 months. A child in need of adoption is similar in feel to a relationship which was abandoned, and when you feel sad that the child won't drink his mother's milk, it could be your mind's way of saying that you feel sad that this relationship won't be nurtured if you give up on it.

The reason the home is unfamiliar is because it represents the distance between you and this man you'd like to kindle a relationship with.

You mention that you were "bonding" with the child, which implies that you felt a bond with the man you want to pursue a relationship with. The pans on the stove are hot, and there's nothing in them. That seems to me to imply that you believe that even though there's no real substance to your relationship with this man yet, there's still a "flame", or potential, between you. When you try to stir the pan, the two objects meld, or "bond" together, becoming one. This is a reinforcement of your feeling that the potential between you and this man is enough for the two of you to become one, or bond.

The violet blue color could have a special meaning to you, regarding love or relationships. For me, it sparked memories of an old song I used to sing when I was a child with the following lyrics:

Lavender Blue Lyrics

Great-grandfather met great-grandmother
When she was a shy young miss
And great-grandfather won great-grandmother
With words, more less, like this...

Lavender blue dilly dilly
Lavender green
If I were king dilly dilly,
I'd need a queen
Who told you so dilly dilly
Who told you so?
I told myself dilly dilly
I told me so
If your dilly dilly heart
Feels a dilly dilly way
And if you'll answer "yes,"
In a pretty little church,
On a dilly dilly day,
You'll be wed in the dilly dilly dress of
Lavender blue dilly dilly
Lavender green
Then I'll be king dilly dilly
And you'll be my queen

If your dilly dilly heart
Feels a dilly dilly way
And if you'll answer "yes,"
In a pretty little church,
On a dilly dilly day,
You'll be wed in the dilly dilly dress of
Lavender blue dilly dilly
Lavender green
Then I'll be king dilly dilly
And you'll be my queen

The End

I don't know if you're familiar with that song, but you can see it's about a romance that lasted for a very long time.

In your dream, you feel awed and amazed as the second pan and fork bond, but don't understand why it's so hot. Once again, this reinforces your feeling that there is a lot of potential between you and this man to bond, despite the lack of "food" or substance between you . . . yet.

I think the reason that you become stressed and panicked as you realize that you're in someone else's home, is because, as you said, the reason you and this man decided not to pursue a relationship is distance, which could be represented as unfamiliar territory, or someone else's (his, possibly) home.

You are afraid that you've "ruined" someone else's utensils and pans, which could be taken to mean that you acknowledge that he also has the right to decide if he wants to start this relationship with you, and if you, in waking life, actually bonded with him without his permission, the relationships might be "ruined", even though it amazes you how easy it all seems.

The woman who tells you not to worry is possibly your more reasonable self saying that there really is no need to worry. And you replying that you will pay is your emotional self saying that you're willing to take the risk, even if there's a price. Your reasonable self states again that you shouldn't worry.

I notice that you posted this thread way back in January, and I don't mean to be nosy, but I wondered . . . did you ever try to make that big move?