Thread: Adultery?!

If your words are honest, you've got nothing to worry about. It's a dream. If you're lying to us and yourself, then you've got some problems to work out.

Don't freak. It's not real.

Originally Posted by MirrorFoe

So I've been with my boyfriend about 6 months, honestly, I am in love with him. We have been having a little trouble lately, but they are all trivial.

My boyfriend told me I needed to go home to take a nap, because I've been feeling sick lately. Came home and took the nap, and had a frightening dream...
I was with a friend, someone I crushed on for nearly 8 months, and I'm pretty sure the crush was mutual. I then moved on when I met my current boyfriend, and so me and that old crush really don't speak as often as we used to.

Anyways, In the dream, I cannot remember all of it, but we were close, VERY close. I was about two inches away from laying a passionate kiss on his face, but then I saw my boyfriend and immediately pushed him away, and kiss my man instead.

I know I didn't commit adultery in the dream, but I was very close.. I don't have feelings for the guy anymore, and I am strongly against cheating.. I just can't help but feel so guilty for even thinking/dreaming of the possibility of the situation...

Can anyone help me interpret this?
thanks for reading...

-MF

OK, first thing, this dream does not mean you fancy the guy over the boyfriend. Maybe once, but not (necessarily) now.

Second, 6 months of girl/boyfriend followed by dreaming of nearly kissing someone does not amount to adultery in my books. It's interesting that you found your loyalty challenged - and the message in the dream could be something around that.

Third, when you saw your boyfriend, your feelings of loyalty to him were stronger than your feelings of attraction to the other guy.

What does this tell you? To me it says that you value loyalty over desire. But I wonder also if the feeling in your dream for the guy felt stronger than feelings you'd normally have for your boyfriend? Maybe this dream has shown you that you do indeed have the capacity to feel strong attraction for someone - could be anyone you choose - and that you too easily let matters of the head (value of loyalty) overrule matters of the heart.