SD-1: Shared Dream Class, Meet Me In a Dream

**Raven Knight** · 04-03-2011 03:15 AM

Hello, again. Once again, this posting comes quite a bit later than it should have been due to a schedule packed with working, looking for a job, and building an epic video game that will help me get a full time job in the game industry… or that is my hope. This final posting on the shared dreaming class is a discussion of the techniques that I am familiar with that will give you the best chance at a shared dream, a confirmed shared dream.

Are You There?
One of the first things you need to decide is just what will it take to convince you the dream was truly a shared dream and not just a coincidence or you dreaming of a DC that just happens to look like the person you are attempting to have a dream with. Some people are convinced simply by talking to the person they dreamed with and finding similarities in the two dreams, other people require a more rigid experiment to become convinced of the reality of shared dreaming. Only you know what it will take to convince you of your success. What I find to be a good way is simply to plan on a shared dream, record the dreams the next day, and then compare notes. No, it won't convince anyone else, but that's not really the goal, is it? If you journal the dreams separately and find they match, bingo! It's a confirmed dream.

Meet Me In a Dream
No matter what it will take for you to count a shared dream as a success, the most difficult part is to have the first shared dream with your friend. It doesn't tend to work very well to go into the dreams of a complete stranger, or at least it doesn't usually work for me. Here is a list of tips that should bring your desire to have a shared dream into reality.

1. Find someone who also wants to share dreams. It should be someone who has similar views on shared dreaming as you do. If your views and beliefs are too different from each other, it could interfere with your connection. An example of two conflicting viewpoints could be if one of you believes in the dream plane as a separate plane of existence and the other one believes shared dreaming is a result of a telepathic connection… the two of you might end up trying to connect on two completely different levels and miss each other entirely.

2. Get to know your partner, it is much more likely that you will be able to share a dream once you know each other better. This also helps you to be able to recognize each other when you do manage to share a dream. This also helps for both of you to have something to focus on when searching the dream to find each other. While it is possible to have a dream with someone you don't know very well, developing a connection to your partner makes the process go much smoother.

3. Choose a location to meet. Just like in your waking life, meeting someone is much easier when you agree on a time and a place first. Well, time isn't really relevant in dreams since dream time has a way of being skewed off of waking life time, but location is relevant. Choose a place you are both familiar with and you can both envision clearly. It can be a place from the waking world, from a movie you have both seen, from a video game you have both played… It's really just like calling a friend and saying you'll meet them at the corner café.

4. Focus your intent. And not just on the other person, focus your intent on reaching the location the two of you agreed on meeting at. If you have agreed on meeting your friend at the corner café, the most important thing to do would be to go to the agreed on location. You would go to the café and then find the person you came to meet. It's the same for a shared dream. Focus first on reaching the destination, then on finding the person you are there to meet.

5. Meeting each other in a lucid dream would be ideal. But a shared dream doesn't have to be a lucid dream. Focus on incubating a dream where the two of you meet. If your intent is strong enough, you may find that you meet up with your partner in the agreed location even if you aren't lucid at the time. The dream can be confirmed as a shared dream if both of you journal similar dreams on the same night. I have had this happen before, sometimes I didn't even recognize that it was a shared dream until I saw that the other person's dream matched mine.

Leave No Stone Unturned
These are ideas that tend to help me when I am trying to share a dream with someone else. And of course, it is important to remember the dream and journal it with as much detail as you can recall. You never know which details might be important, even if they don't seem important at the time. Example, you have a dream in a café where you are talking to a long lost friend. You order a triple tall chocolate milkshake with whipped cream on top from the server and continue talking to your friend. In your friend's dream, your friend is working at a café and fills an order from a customer for a triple tall chocolate milkshake with whipped cream on top… before going back to their boss and fulfilling one of their greatest desires of punching him in the face. The detail of the milkshake might pale compared to meeting a long lost friend or punching your boss in the face, but it is a definite match. And if this is combined with the fact the two of you had planned on meeting at a café… that's good evidence for success.

Well, thank you for reading this post. If you have questions about shared dreaming, go ahead and send me a PM and I will try to answer them. Please be patient, as I have said I am very busy, but I will respond… it might just take me several days to do it. However if your question is to ask me if I will be your dream share partner, I'm sorry, but I am far too busy lately… that, and my dream recall has taken a definite downward turn for a while, so I would very likely not remember a dream we managed to share. Any questions on how to do it, send me a PM and I will do my best to answer. Good luck, and many shared lucid dreams to you.

Raven