Thread: why are we so obsessed with proving other people wrong and making ourselves look good?

Originally Posted by stormcrow

Humans will always have a burning urge to be right and as Foucault says knowledge is power. In an ideal world everyone would be right about everything even if it contradicted reality but this would be a paradox, there is such thing as true and false despite what people want to believe.

I would imagine that this thread is largely a shot at the discussions on R/S. It depends on how you look at it, you could say someone is "tearing apart" someones ideas and another would say it is just a logical discourse. Alot of people on dreamviews are really scared of being contradicted or proved wrong in front of all their friends and that is their problem in my opinion. I love debates but if you notice my posts I never call anyone an idiot or stupid, its not my style.

Like I said many people find confrontation to be threatening, I however find it to be constructive. We grow from confrontation, this is what has sped along evolution, it makes us stronger and better able to face new challenges. Consider the dialectical process: we have the thesis(original idea) opposed to the antithesis(opposing idea) and together they form the synthesis(combination of both ideas).

Anyway I'm done.

When two people are interacting, the one who proves his point of view and proves the other person wrong gets a psychological boost from it. The whole point is to get the person to see the world through his eyes. If he successfully does this, it leaves him( the "winner" of the interaction ) feeling victorious, sometimes even euphoric. It's purely ego and the basis behind all human conflict.

Originally Posted by Majestic

When two people are interacting, the one who proves his point of view and proves the other person wrong gets a psychological boost from it. The whole point is to get the person to see the world through his eyes. If he successfully does this, it leaves him( the "winner" of the interaction ) feeling victorious, sometimes even euphoric. It's purely ego and the basis behind all human conflict.

Hopefully in this situation the "loser" will actually learn something, which makes them a winner! I think your ego is deceiving you into believing there is such thing as a "winner" and a "loser" in a discourse, when actually this is an illusion of duality which causes suffering. Dr. Stormcrow suggests you balance your chakaras and mediate with ancient Chinese healing crystals so that you may see the light. Namaste.

In my opinion, people in general like to prove themselvs right and others wrong becuase it gives us the feelings of advantage.

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Originally Posted by Majestic

In my opinion, people in general like to prove themselvs right and others wrong becuase it gives us the feelings of advantage.

My my, that sure is a gem of wisdom you just dropped on me.

But I can understand why you believe this, because you always need to be right and just want to prove me wrong! Stop bullying me! (hides in corner)