an aquaintance of mine posted this in their blog, and i found it pretty well said (i agree completely).

the main source of my incredulity with marriage is the crucial phrase "til death do us part". hell, i've died a hundred times in a single day.

so, here it is.

"i'm beginning to realize how monogomy has been constructed since biblical times
to be nothing more than a means to convey ownership over another living creature ,
to feel pride in doing so , in having something "special" that no one else can have .

it is a means by which to create a feeling of betterment over others . monogomy
is a game of prize , and is entirely egocentric . the idea that one person should ,
or even could , love only one other person for the entirety of their life seems
absolutely unnatural to me . it is only natural that humans will love many times ,
love many people , even all at the same time , because whether or not we are able
to accept it.
everything in this universe changes constantly . why should this
particular subject bare any differences ? if people cannot be ok with this idea
then the ideal of the human race becoming "one [worldly] tribal nation" can never
come to exist .

to place value on one person over another is an act of segregation .
segregation , as i've mentioned in the past [as have the ranks of many others] ,
is well known to be a form of violence . in this , i propose that monogomy is little
if nothing more than a form of violence which has been deemed socially acceptable
due to it's longstanding assocations with what is "right" . when in truth
we can all see the blatantly negative associations which become all too clear
within the context of nearly all monogomous relationships . jealousy first and
foremost . secondly , resentment . all the things that get built up in our heads
when one side of the partnership decides it's not ok for the other side to do
something in particular , whatever it may be . these situations are classic
examples of jealousy and resentment . jealousy from the side of the restrictor .
resentment from the side of the restricted . it is no wonder that after storing
these things up for so long at a time that they eventually blow up into
arguments about things that are completely irrelevant as a guise for the real
issues .
the jealousy/resentment issue also brings other negative things about .
such as dishonesty , fear , and paranoia . one will start sneaking around behind
the other and hiding things from them . we can easily see what happens when
things start happening in this vein .
dependance is yet another negative state
of being that becomes all too relevant . the two people involved will grow to feel
dependant on one another , valuing them over others and thus creating a competitive
nature within the relationship . so when one of the two wants to spend some of their
time elsewhere , a feeling of resentment [once again] arises . all of these things
just feed into a cycle which does nothing but form negative associations between
us . these are all products of the social
construct we know as monogomy . without it there is a possibilty that the
relationships we form with eachother can be much stronger and free flowing than
how they are now . we can come to truly love everyone and rid ourselves of this
diseased thought that we can't do or have absolutely everything we want .

some would say a child needs two parents , a mother and a father , to grow
up in a healthy environment . two people who love and care for eachother
deeply . however this is only something we believe is true because of how
thickly fabricated the illusion is . i feel that if a child was raised by
a community of people , not even necessarily a formally constructed one ,
to believe that it was normal to have been done so , then that child will have an
increased ability to love many individuals for many different reasons .
mainly being that it teaches the child to love everybody as if they were
their parents , and to treat them with the same respect . along with the
love and respect the child would feel for others , the child would have an
increased intake of these same things being that they will be coming from
so many different sources and frequently at that . and among all of this ,
these feelings would not be forced , rather legitimate as they would be
feelings that the child came to of their on accord , merely through the
experience of their life .

some would say that if one cannot sustain a monogomous relationship
then it must be that they will rather just be promiscuous and
become disease ridden . this can be true , however while practicing
this way of being we must not forget other important virtues which
we have learned in the past . in this case , everything in moderation .
if it was taught from childhood [once again] that you could love many
people and care for many people and that you didn't need to just be
with one single person forever , then the desire to just be outlandishly
promiscuous wouldn't ever appear to beign with . for example , when
something is not forbidden then the interest in it will be less so than
if it were . the bottom line is that things would be different . it is
only in this perverse society which ideals of a single love thrive
because it has been so heavily bred into the very fabric of our beings
to believe this is true .

all these preconceptions about love and "one partner for your whole life"
don't have to be the basis for so much jealousy , hate , and violence .
if only we would teach our children from the youngest age that it was ok
to love everyone for whatever reason we can . if only we would realize that
no one is better than anyone else , just that we form different relationsips
with one another that each have their own place within our beings that is
special . if only we could see and value these things we could create a world
in which love is not something private and would not seperate us from eachother "

any thoughts?