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      Quote Originally Posted by Thatperson View Post
      I think someone needs some 1st grade science education
      Yes, you. This is why this thread is a hidden moral judgment. Every argument you come up with has been logically and scientifically refuted and yet you doggedly cling to your ignorance and continue to use the same arguments. You think gay sex is icky and you are going to argue that it is 'abnormal' and wrong no matter how much sense everyone else tries to force into you.

      What do you actually know about evolution, biology, and genetics? Where have you studied these things?

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      What does roleplaying games like d&d, computer games, playing baseball, driving fast cars, drawing, tv, climbing, swimming, running, boxing, stamp collecting all have in common? All of them are preferences. Some people enjoy doing them, some people do not. Do I need proof and scientific studies to prove that they are all not genetically build in? If I claim they are preferences, you going to call me illogical, because I couldn't possibly know that a person have a choice. You going to argue with me over how each must be a genetic preference that was built in when I was born?

      How come being gay is singled out from all of them, as different. How come being gay needs studies and genetic testing to find out where it comes from, while no such things exist for people who enjoy reading comic books?

      The truth is that they are no different. The reason being gay is singled out, is because it involves sex. Not only sex, but a sexual taboo. If it didn't involve sex, we wouldn't think twice about it.

      You havn't show any evidence to prove that it is any different from any other preference. Except a vague reference that some scientist, may have discovered a gene that plays a small part in it.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Xaqaria View Post
      This is why this thread is a hidden moral judgment.
      here we go with the paranoia again. Where is this "hidden" moral judgement please quote one thing I have said which implies there is a hidden moral judgement.

      You think gay sex is icky
      I never said this, and neither did I even imply it.

      What do you actually know about evolution, biology, and genetics? Where have you studied these things?
      I have never taken a gardening course yet I know that in proper soil, with adequate water and sunlight, a flower will grow. Likewise I have never enrolled in 'homosexuality studies' but my argument is based upon things i've pieced together through a combination of schooling, documentaries, books, the internet (no not some gay hate site) and common sense. What studies have you done relating to the matter?

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      Quote Originally Posted by Thatperson View Post
      here we go with the paranoia again. Where is this "hidden" moral judgement please quote one thing I have said which implies there is a hidden moral judgement.


      I never said this, and neither did I even imply it.
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      Another point, A species with 0% homosexuals will flourish more than a scoiety with homosexuals using up resources but not contributing to the next generation.
      In case you missed it, "A species with 0% homosexuals will flourish more than a scoiety with homosexuals using up resources but not contributing to the next generation."

      You are implying that homosexuals are worthless parasites.

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      You are implying that homosexuals are worthless parasites.
      you said it not me, you know I hadn't actually thought about that, but from the point of view about competitive societies, then yes I suppose you have a point, mind you using the phrase "worthless parasites" is a little insensitive. Again that's not really a moral judgement, just a statement that that it is not for the most part beneficial for a societies ability to sustain itself population wise. It would also apply to people who can't have/Don't have children, and I have no moral quarms with them.

      But the point of the topic was from a bilogical/medical point of view not a sociology point of view. I don't consider homosexuality to be an immoral thing when homosexuals do not choose to be that way, even if they did homosexuality would not be immoral. Although a question to MementoMori, why would a thread discussing the morality of homosexuality be closed?

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      Quote Originally Posted by Alric View Post
      You havn't show any evidence to prove that it is any different from any other preference. Except a vague reference that some scientist, may have discovered a gene that plays a small part in it.
      So tell me, when did you consciously choose to be heterosexual?
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      When I was about 8.

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      ...also, I really don't understand why this thread is 9 pages long. Homosexuality is found throughout Nature, therefore it is normal, otherwise it would not exist. How freaking hard is it to understand such a simple concept? You don't have to like homosexual behaviour to acknowledge that it does exist and is normal.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Alric View Post
      When I was about 8.
      So you sat yourself down and said "I prefer to be heterosexual rather than homosexual" at 8 years old?

      I don't think so. Most 8 year olds do not have mental faculties required to understand the vast realities of sexual types, psychosexual attitues, behaviour and socioeconomic impact. More realistically you just began to realize that you were attracted to the opposite gender at that age. Becoming aware of an emerging truth about your innate personality and behaviour is not that same as making a conscious choice.
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      Quote Originally Posted by Sekhmet View Post
      ...also, I really don't understand why this thread is 9 pages long. Homosexuality is found throughout Nature, therefore it is normal, otherwise it would not exist. Hard freaking hard is it to understand such a simple concept? You don't have to like (i.e. prefer) homosexual behaviour to acknowledge that it does exist and is normal.
      well read the 9 pages and you'll see. by your logic then, conjoined twins are normal, as it has occured several times in nature, but the majority of people would consider that conjoined twins are abnormal.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Thatperson View Post
      well read the 9 pages and you'll see. by your logic then, conjoined twins are normal, as it has occured several times in nature, but the majority of people would consider that conjoined twins are abnormal.
      Conjoined twins are normal. Disabilities are normal. Sickness and diseases are normal. Throughout human history there has never been any length of time where human being have had a 100% birth rate without ailmets of some kind. It is expected (though not always predictable) that a small percentage of humans will be born with conditions that are not "ideal" or "perfect". This is true for all living things in Nature. It is normal. You don't have to like this reality to acknowlege that it is true. The concept of "abnormality" only exists in our perceptions of reality and our conscious choice to accept or reject what we see and experience.
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      Like I said though, it doesn't have to be a conscious choice. Subconscious choices, preferences based on past experiences, social pressures, and cultural influences all count.

      Which is the same as any other preference. Often you don't consciously decide if something is fun, its either fun or it isn't fun. Though the reason it is fun is because of your personality which is made up of past experiences, and conscious and subconscious decisions. Your personalty is not created and predestined from birth based on your genes, like some people might lead you to believe. Sure genes may play a part in the start, but its hardly the be all and end all of everything. You cant just blame everything in genes.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Alric View Post
      Like I said though, it doesn't have to be a conscious choice. Subconscious choices, preferences based on past experiences, social pressures, and cultural influences all count.

      Which is the same as any other preference. Often you don't consciously decide if something is fun, its either fun or it isn't fun. Though the reason it is fun is because of your personality which is made up of past experiences, and conscious and subconscious decisions. Your personalty is not created and predestined from birth based on your genes, like some people might lead you to believe. Sure genes may play a part in the start, but its hardly the be all and end all of everything. You cant just blame everything in genes.
      Actually, my older brother is in many ways like me, but he certainly has some behavioral differences, that differ very greatly from both me and our 2 other brothers. We are only 3 years apart and have grown up under very much the same conditions, yet he's still greatly different when it comes to certain things. I could get into more detail, but my point is that he picked up some very prevalent personality quirks from our father that my other brothers and I did not, which makes me believe that we as humans pick up certain personality related things through our genes and other things through environmental factors while we grow up.

      Putting all our preferences, like our sexuality, our prefered food, our prefered form of entertainment and all kinds of other preferences into the same box, is taking the wrong approach. I probably like playing video games, because I grew up playing video games. Why am I bisexual? I honestly can't give a good answer to that. My mother and father seperated when I was 6 and I lived with my mother from then, but I still regularly visitted my father. The divorce didn't hurt me emotionally in any way, because my parents were not being idiots about it. They were fine with each other, they just couldn't live together anymore.
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      Quote Originally Posted by Alric View Post
      What does roleplaying games like d&d, computer games, playing baseball, driving fast cars, drawing, tv, climbing, swimming, running, boxing, stamp collecting all have in common? All of them are preferences. Some people enjoy doing them, some people do not. Do I need proof and scientific studies to prove that they are all not genetically build in? If I claim they are preferences, you going to call me illogical, because I couldn't possibly know that a person have a choice. You going to argue with me over how each must be a genetic preference that was built in when I was born?
      I never said that every little thing had to have a genetic origin. But, what makes you so dead-sure that homosexuality is only a preference? I could argue it's a different form of instinct. Genetics got the "have sex" bit right, but switched about the "with whom" part of the program. It could be that, during brain development, a gay person's neurons connect a bit differently. Perhaps even that prenatal developmental stage shapes our future interests and preferences. It could be any number of factors. People who receive more testosterone in the womb are usually more aggressive, and so would not be content with something like stamp keeping, and may prefer race car driving or baseball playing. Now of course I'm not going to say that development throughout life isn't going to have an impact at all...that would be silly. But neither am I going to discount the possibility of prenatal and genetic factors, as some do. I retain my stance that homosexuality is not an active choice an individual consciously makes in a short period of time...the same way people don't actively choose to be heterosexual.

      How come being gay is singled out from all of them, as different. How come being gay needs studies and genetic testing to find out where it comes from, while no such things exist for people who enjoy reading comic books?
      Because a joy for reading comic books can rise up out of anything, and can spontaneously develop in the course of a couple of minutes. Homosexuality, on the other hand, is far more complex and more deeply rooted. A person will get a nice chuckle out of a comic book, but love is a far more powerful emotion. Hobbies come and go, but sexuality seems to be somewhat rigidly defined on an individual basis, which is to say, a person does not typically move very far from whatever point on the gradient they landed at. Gay people tend to stay gay, straight people stay straight, and bisexuals bisexual. Deviations from the norm could be a result of any numerous factors. A straight person who suddenly finds themselves gay, perhaps, may have hit upon a level of self-realization, suppressed by societal expectations until just that instant.
      The truth is that they are no different. The reason being gay is singled out, is because it involves sex. Not only sex, but a sexual taboo. If it didn't involve sex, we wouldn't think twice about it.
      There is more to homosexuality than just animal sex, you know. Like, emotional love, excitation, and the like. I could care less that it involves sex. Remove the sex, and you still have deep-seated love for a person of the same sex that that same person does not hold for members of the opposite sex.

      You havn't show any evidence to prove that it is any different from any other preference. Except a vague reference that some scientist, may have discovered a gene that plays a small part in it.
      And you haven't shown me any evidence that homosexuality is as simple as being a preference for one gender or another. I believe I just showed above, too, how it is different from picking up a comic book. A person could go out and have gay sex, but if that attraction, if that love, is not there, it isn't there. The sex may be great, sure, but without love, it isn't homosexuality, is it?

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      Like I said though, it doesn't have to be a conscious choice. Subconscious choices, preferences based on past experiences, social pressures, and cultural influences all count.
      Again, all things outside the direct control of the individual. My argument is simply that homosexuality is not a conscious choice a person makes. That's all I'm arguing. Beyond that, I'm tossing out other possibilities with evidence neither for nor against in an effort to show you that you could very well be wrong. I grant that I could (and likely am) wrong on at least several of the potential causes of homosexuality I'm tossing out, but you seem to remain perfectly certain that your point of view, made on personal observations without objective evidence, is absolute truth. See, that kind of pisses me off, because we don't know. Logically, we may like to think we know, but we don't. Your hypothesis that homosexuality is solely about preferences influenced only marginally by prenatal or genetic factors is just that: a hypothesis. It is a testable claim with thus far inconclusive results.

      Which is the same as any other preference. Often you don't consciously decide if something is fun, its either fun or it isn't fun. Though the reason it is fun is because of your personality which is made up of past experiences, and conscious and subconscious decisions. Your personalty is not created and predestined from birth based on your genes, like some people might lead you to believe. Sure genes may play a part in the start, but its hardly the be all and end all of everything. You cant just blame everything in genes.
      I never said that genes were the be-all end-all of everything. And "blaming" genes? What an interesting selection of words for the context of this argument. Is there something wrong with homosexuality? (You see how fun it is to put words in the mouths of others?) Genetically, science has gotten very interesting results with just how much a person's personality is determined by genes, right down to hand gestures. I do think they play a larger part than you give them credit for. I'm afraid we have gotten a bit off-topic with the "nature vs nurture" debate, so...care to remind me exactly how it is an abnormality?
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      Quote Originally Posted by Thatperson View Post
      well read the 9 pages and you'll see. by your logic then, conjoined twins are normal, as it has occured several times in nature, but the majority of people would consider that conjoined twins are abnormal.
      Like I said, we only consider something like "conjoined twins" "abnormal" with your definition of a "malfunction" because it gets in the way of our priorities. Homosexuality on the other hand doesn't necessarily get in the way of any of our priorities. If someone was born with something abnormal by the real definition of the word but it was beneficial you wouldn't consider it a "malfunction," yet something like being homosexual, which is pretty much neutral for human priorities, you consider it a "malfunction." Not everyone thinks having kids is important for their own personal life.

      I'll go as far as to say for me being homosexual is beneficial, it is the opposite of a malfunction, it is a desired change.
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      I have never seen anything to show that sexual orientation is a static unchangeable thing. Peoples interest do change, and you can gain or lose sexual fetishes through life. You my be a breast guy then switch to loving legs betters. A straight person can become bisexual, and while it might be uncommon people do go from straight to gay, or from gay to straight.

      Normally changes in things like that are so gradual that they are not easily noticeable, but it can and does happen. A person that suddenly notices they are gay, may really have at one point enjoyed and preferred the opposite sex.

      Since it can change, it make it seems even less likely that things are set at stone at birth.

      Also, you can be homosexual without actually loving a person. If you have great gay sex, but have no other feelings for them, you are still gay. Just like a straight person doesn't have to love their partner, neither does a gay person. Now I am not saying most people are like that or anything, but it does count.

      Any way, to get back on the abnormality topic. My entire point was that being gay is a personality trait and a preference, and no preference is ever abnormal because humans are individuals and we are all different and capable of doing whatever we want.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Alric View Post
      I have never seen anything to show that sexual orientation is a static unchangeable thing. Peoples interest do change, and you can gain or lose sexual fetishes through life. You my be a breast guy then switch to loving legs betters. A straight person can become bisexual, and while it might be uncommon people do go from straight to gay, or from gay to straight.

      Normally changes in things like that are so gradual that they are not easily noticeable, but it can and does happen. A person that suddenly notices they are gay, may really have at one point enjoyed and preferred the opposite sex.

      Since it can change, it make it seems even less likely that things are set at stone at birth.

      Also, you can be homosexual without actually loving a person. If you have great gay sex, but have no other feelings for them, you are still gay. Just like a straight person doesn't have to love their partner, neither does a gay person. Now I am not saying most people are like that or anything, but it does count.

      Any way, to get back on the abnormality topic. My entire point was that being gay is a personality trait and a preference, and no preference is ever abnormal because humans are individuals and we are all different and capable of doing whatever we want.
      There is a huge difference between straight, bisexual, and gay. If someone that is straight, sleeps with someone of the same gender, that doesn't make the individual gay, but makes the individual bisexual. In this aspect, the individual was never straight, but in actuality bisexual.

      Sorry, but by definition, it is impossible for a straight person to become bisexual.
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      Quote Originally Posted by Alric View Post
      I have never seen anything to show that sexual orientation is a static unchangeable thing. Peoples interest do change, and you can gain or lose sexual fetishes through life. You my be a breast guy then switch to loving legs betters. A straight person can become bisexual, and while it might be uncommon people do go from straight to gay, or from gay to straight.
      Uncommon being the key word. And that factor of uncommonness does beg the question of is it a true transition and change in preference, or a moment of self-realization?
      Normally changes in things like that are so gradual that they are not easily noticeable, but it can and does happen. A person that suddenly notices they are gay, may really have at one point enjoyed and preferred the opposite sex.
      Sure, they may have enjoyed it, or have perceived to enjoy it, but it is also very well possible that the person had no idea how awesome sex was until they realized they were gay. In other words, they were gay all along, but never realized it.
      Since it can change, it make it seems even less likely that things are set at stone at birth.
      Again, does it change, or is it self-realization? A man who becomes bisexual, for example, perhaps never slept with men before because he never thought about it, had never been introduced to the concept. Then, upon a bit of thinking, he realizes it was probably something he could have started enjoying a long time ago. Have you ever had a moment when you went "what have I been missing?!"? This phenomenon is most prevalent in the sampling of new things, food making a great example. Perhaps you go to a new restaurant that serves a dish you've never heard of. You taste it, and it's the most awesome thing you've ever had. It blows everything else you've tasted out of the water. Or, try an activity. Maybe rock climbing gives you an adrenaline rush you never thought possible. It isn't that your preferences changed, it's that you were introduced to something totally new and realized how awesome it was.

      Also, you can be homosexual without actually loving a person. If you have great gay sex, but have no other feelings for them, you are still gay. Just like a straight person doesn't have to love their partner, neither does a gay person. Now I am not saying most people are like that or anything, but it does count.
      As a sexual orientation, homosexuality refers to "an enduring pattern of or disposition to experience sexual, affectional, or romantic attractions primarily to" people of the same sex.
      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexuality
      Any way, to get back on the abnormality topic. My entire point was that being gay is a personality trait and a preference, and no preference is ever abnormal because humans are individuals and we are all different and capable of doing whatever we want.
      Ah, very good. I do believe I had you confused with someone else. Hey, we finally agree on something!

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      Quote Originally Posted by Thatperson View Post
      here we go with the paranoia again. Where is this "hidden" moral judgement please quote one thing I have said which implies there is a hidden moral judgement.
      Homosexuality 'just doesn't seem right' to many.

      But you know sometimes you've just gotta stop being a smart alec, and live in the real world for a second, where people consider cancer a bad thing and unatural thing. (used to compare to homosexuality)

      They Should desire these thing (I don't mean moral should), if they don't then something has gone wrong somewhere, however benign it may be.

      If you wished you could construct an ideal person,
      Words like right, wrong, bad, should, and ideal are only applicable in a moral or ethical context (or otherwise philosophical, but either way; not scientific). No matter how many times you try to back track by asserting you aren't making a moral judgment, your real intent shows through when you use these words whether you realize it or not.

      I have never taken a gardening course yet I know that in proper soil, with adequate water and sunlight, a flower will grow. Likewise I have never enrolled in 'homosexuality studies' but my argument is based upon things i've pieced together through a combination of schooling, documentaries, books, the internet (no not some gay hate site) and common sense. What studies have you done relating to the matter?
      My experience is similar to yours, although I would be interested to know specifically which books you have read, since all of the ones I've read contradict just about everything you are saying. The most common contradiction among the resources I have had access to is the example of non-reproducing insect colony members promoting the continuation of their own genes by supporting their reproducing siblings.
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      Quote Originally Posted by Mario92 View Post
      Sure, they may have enjoyed it, or have perceived to enjoy it, but it is also very well possible that the person had no idea how awesome sex was until they realized they were gay. In other words, they were gay all along, but never realized it.


      Again, does it change, or is it self-realization? A man who becomes bisexual, for example, perhaps never slept with men before because he never thought about it, had never been introduced to the concept. Then, upon a bit of thinking, he realizes it was probably something he could have started enjoying a long time ago. Have you ever had a moment when you went "what have I been missing?!"?
      I think most people are bisexual(to some degree or another), and the reason they do not know it, is because of cultural or social reasons they never explore that side. Which was the entire reason I brought up that everyone is capable of enjoying gay sex from a strictly physical aspect.

      According to what you just said, a gay man who chooses not to explore gay sex will never realize how good it is. In that case a person who had the potential to be gay will never actually become gay. In a very real sense they chose not to be gay by not exploring it.

      On the flip side, a person who explores it chooses to take actions that will lead to them becoming gay.

      Going by the definition of what gay is, you are only gay if you have sexual desire and attraction or have actual sex with members of the same sex. If there is no desire and there is no action taken you are not gay. You cant retroactively be gay. You are only gay when the desire emerges.

      If you are born gay, the desires should emerge around puberty when you start having sexual desires. If you become gay, the desire can appear at any time in life. While I am sure many gay people are gay early in life, there is also a great many that had no desire while younger.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Alric View Post
      I think most people are bisexual(to some degree or another), and the reason they do not know it, is because of cultural or social reasons they never explore that side. Which was the entire reason I brought up that everyone is capable of enjoying gay sex from a strictly physical aspect.
      "We're all gay, buddy. It's just to what extent are you gay." -- Ron White
      According to what you just said, a gay man who chooses not to explore gay sex will never realize how good it is. In that case a person who had the potential to be gay will never actually become gay. In a very real sense they chose not to be gay by not exploring it.
      It's not that they choose to be not gay, it's that they aren't ever presented the opportunity. They don't know that possibility exists for them, much like you were completely oblivious to the meal you had no idea existed.

      On the flip side, a person who explores it chooses to take actions that will lead to them becoming gay.
      Again, is it becoming gay, or is it realizing that they've been gay all along? This is a point you continue to dodge.

      Going by the definition of what gay is, you are only gay if you have sexual desire and attraction or have actual sex with members of the same sex. If there is no desire and there is no action taken you are not gay. You cant retroactively be gay. You are only gay when the desire emerges.
      Unless you've been subconsciously repressing that desire to conform to social expectations, which is not entirely uncommon in our culture and other cultures around the world. Fear can make a person ignore their feelings entirely on a subconscious level until such a time when either that desire overcomes the fear or the fear dissipates.

      If you are born gay, the desires should emerge around puberty when you start having sexual desires. If you become gay, the desire can appear at any time in life. While I am sure many gay people are gay early in life, there is also a great many that had no desire while younger.
      Consider our culture. We grew up learning that boys end up with girls. Our society forces us into specific gender roles from a very early age. Why don't you ever see male babies wearing pink? It's just a color, after all. Remember those games of House we all used to play, where the man would return home from a hard day of work to his loving wife? We have been brainwashed by our society and our culture, and to such a deep extent that it may very well lead to otherwise gay individuals trying to conform to expectations. Not to mention, the prefrontal cortex of the brain is coming online, which causes plenty of confusion as is. Throw in some teenage angst, and who knows what the hell you have?

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      Quote Originally Posted by Thatperson View Post
      you said it not me, you know I hadn't actually thought about that, but from the point of view about competitive societies, then yes I suppose you have a point, mind you using the phrase "worthless parasites" is a little insensitive. Again that's not really a moral judgement, just a statement that that it is not for the most part beneficial for a societies ability to sustain itself population wise. It would also apply to people who can't have/Don't have children, and I have no moral quarms with them.

      But the point of the topic was from a bilogical/medical point of view not a sociology point of view. I don't consider homosexuality to be an immoral thing when homosexuals do not choose to be that way, even if they did homosexuality would not be immoral. Although a question to MementoMori, why would a thread discussing the morality of homosexuality be closed?
      I'm sorry for having to repeat myself so much. We've already cleared that objectively, scientifically there can't really be any judgements on something malfunctioning, unless you take something common in nature and label it normally functioning and standard. So after such classifications you can compare this conceptual ideal functioning to something else in the real world. If you then find a living being which doesn't reproduce, as opposed to the ideal model for organisms which says that it should, then you can call it malfunctioning.

      Now why is it "wrong" to call homosexuals malfunctioning? Well if you apply the aforementioned process, then nothing... But! Our society is intelligent enough (or is it?) to see past some naturally ingrained instincts as universal law that must be upheld. So you see, if there is a person who doesn't want to have sex, or have sex without actually reproducing...so what! If you really must judge people by some percieved biological standard, then can't you see the benefits individuals can have for our species? Others have already showed some hypothetical evolutionary "uses". Anyway... As far as I see it, our biological (macro)evolution is pretty much useless at this point, seeing the technological advances that will take over eventually. So at this stage, judging things by some evolutionary principles is pretty useless. I mean, is a gay scientists who cures cancer, solves our energy crisis and invents interstellar travel still best labeled as malfunctioning? Especially now, when we are already capable of synthesizing a genome from scratch and reproduction is mostly a problem in a negative way, i.e. overpopulation.

      The problem here isn't in the actual act of labeling something, but in the absurdity of the label. It's like saying that air condition devices are useless because they don't help you in Antarctica.
      I think it's safe to assume you see something wrong with keeping that label as some absolute description of the device.

      So that's how it's wrong, even in a "medical/biological" view, if that's how you choose to call it.
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      Quote Originally Posted by Mario92 View Post
      Consider our culture. We grew up learning that boys end up with girls. Our society forces us into specific gender roles from a very early age. Why don't you ever see male babies wearing pink? It's just a color, after all. Remember those games of House we all used to play, where the man would return home from a hard day of work to his loving wife? We have been brainwashed by our society and our culture, and to such a deep extent that it may very well lead to otherwise gay individuals trying to conform to expectations. Not to mention, the prefrontal cortex of the brain is coming online, which causes plenty of confusion as is. Throw in some teenage angst, and who knows what the hell you have?
      Exactly. Which is why I think all of that is far bigger factor in the number of gay people we have than genes. If there was absolutely none of that at all, I strongly believe their would be a far larger number of bisexual people.

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      =What i'm trying to keep from happening is you offending anyone on this forum who may be homosexual or have family that is. That would be insulting and disrespecting another member, and discriminating against them.
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      You are an offence to all those who do not care about peoples opion but only care about the truth. So, it has always been. We will always offend someone, but I for one do not give a rats ass who it is. My concern is not offending the truth. Perhaps you do not understand those who, in practicing the Judeo-Christiian Religion know the command not to regard any man but righteous judgment.

      I do have homosexuals in my family, but saying an abomination is not bad, does not help them or hurt them at all. They can only be helped when no one is afraid to speak and examine what is true and they come to understand it. Your self righteous censure of what is true, of open discussion, is offensive to even the foundation of man himself.

      Let me demonstrate by fable, and if you study the ancient Greeks, it was a legitmate method in discussion.

      Once upon a time there was a man, who, upon attempting to breathe felt a great deal of pain in his lungs. Along came two Doctors, both claiming the ability to heal the man. So the ailing man questioned them both. The first doctor said he could cure the pain quite quickly with liittle discomfort. The second said that to heal him from his pain would be a long and painful process. Well, the aiiling man decided the the first doctor was good, and the second a bad doctor and decided to take treatement from the first, whereupon the doctor simply smothered him.

      The removal of what we need to live is not the method to attain to life.

      When one states that their concern is not the truth but deference to special groups of individuals, should be man enought to excuse themselves from the duty of moderation.
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      Quote Originally Posted by Philosopher8659 View Post
      =What i'm trying to keep from happening is you offending anyone on this forum who may be homosexual or have family that is. That would be insulting and disrespecting another member, and discriminating against them.
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      You are an offence to all those who do not care about peoples opion but only care about the truth. So, it has always been. We will always offend someone, but I for one do not give a rats ass who it is. My concern is not offending the truth. Perhaps you do not understand those who, in practicing the Judeo-Christiian Religion know the command not to regard any man but righteous judgment.

      I do have homosexuals in my family, but saying an abomination is not bad, does not help them or hurt them at all. They can only be helped when no one is afraid to speak and examine what is true and they come to understand it. Your self righteous censure of what is true, of open discussion, is offensive to even the foundation of man himself.

      Let me demonstrate by fable, and if you study the ancient Greeks, it was a legitmate method in discussion.

      Once upon a time there was a man, who, upon attempting to breathe felt a great deal of pain in his lungs. Along came two Doctors, both claiming the ability to heal the man. So the ailing man questioned them both. The first doctor said he could cure the pain quite quickly with liittle discomfort. The second said that to heal him from his pain would be a long and painful process. Well, the aiiling man decided the the first doctor was good, and the second a bad doctor and decided to take treatement from the first, whereupon the doctor simply smothered him.

      The removal of what we need to live is not the method to attain to life.

      When one states that their concern is not the truth but deference to special groups of individuals, should be man enought to excuse themselves from the duty of moderation.
      Who are you quoting? so by standards set forth in the Judeo-Christian religion, one should seek the truth which is that homosexuality is an offence and an abomination?
      and Orly? difference to special groups, I believe i properly expressed that what i was trying to keep the thread away from was clouding it with opinions, religion, or bias attitude proposed as the reason it's an abnormality and for only the bare facts to be presented. If you have a problem with the way i handled the situation as a moderator then please PM me and we'll speak about it or drop a thread in the TTS forum.

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