Alternate dream life

[Kyu]

This is going to be extremely difficult for me to put into words that'll make sense. Every once in awhile I'll have these powerful dreams about people who I barely talk to, have on my Facebook, wished to be friends with at one point, but never knew how. I just woke up from one where in the dream I felt so comfortable to this girl that I was writing her letters, playing pokemon on 3DS with her, she invited me over twice in the dream and went out somewhere public another day...and I have no fucking clue how long this dream took place in that realm, but felt like days. Before waking up, I was aware it was a dream and felt my in-dream body vibrating intensely for a long time, before I then found myself falling thousands of feet from the air into the middle of the ocean. I lack the vocabulary skills to describe how real, crazy, depressing, yet awesome this felt. I was the same person, with the same family, yet things were so different. I could feel that my mind worked different in the dream, and felt expanded. My heart was filled with love and I didn't seem to suffer depression until the very end when realizing I was dreaming and felt that fucking crazy body vibration. I also didn't seem to suffer any social anxiety in my dream or feel like I was hated. It felt as if I and this girl had been life long friends and I even knew her mom and brother in the dream, when in real life I do not. One thing that scares me is, I currently do not feel that close to anyone in the real world. Out of the little family and few friends I have, I feel like I've never opened enough to a single one of them so that any of them could know me. I'm 24 yet never had a friend who I'd hangout with multiple times per week, and just talk deep to. Getting a peak of that dream world leaves me so confused because thinking about it now, it's as if that realm has been an established universe with it's own time and day cycle and I only got the chance to live about a week in that life that felt like mine only elsewhere. But now that I'm awake in the real world, I feel that the other place was too established to vanish forever. It felt more real than my own waking life because of the way my mind didn't feel so restricted and locked into a small space. I'm actually feeling pretty hopeless now like I found out I were banished from Heaven/Nirvana and sent back here. One thing I can't get over is the immediate sadness that fell over me once waking up wanting to see this person I felt so much love for, to realize I hardly ever talk to them and that this strong friend connection does not exist. It's weird and hard to explain, but now I'm assuming there is definitely something wrong with me for never being that close to anyone in real life. Not often do I feel this alone...I wouldn't even know how to build a friendship that strong. Somehow the mind of my dream body had it all figured out. Please tell me someone here has had a dream where they were super close to someone else, and felt warm love around them, only to wake up and have reality take it all fucking away from you? What about this full body vibration sensation? I used to feel it often IRL when I d get high. Not so much now after quitting 8 months ago. Now I only feel it rarely in dreams. Usually when lucid I obviously need help if I am to survive this harsh world...

[mimihigurashi]

Um, interesting. Emotions do tend to be greatly intensified in dreams, for whatever reasons. You're not the only one who had a dream like that. Once I dreamt I was with this alien man who kinda looked like Dr Manhattan, he was like a father to me in the dream and we deeply cared about each other. Then one night some other aliens landed and he had to go with them and leave me. I felt completely deserted in the dream and kept asking "why did you leave me daddy?" while looking at the spaceship leave the planet to never come back. Woke up soaked in tears and I honestly couldn't stop crying for a few minutes. It was crazy, I was well aware that it was just a dream but the deep feeling of abandonment was unshakeable. Oh well, I got over it, you mustn't let negative dreams get to you. Harsh world? What sort of help are you looking for exactly?

[Soulless]

I know that feel very well, unfortunately. It's in every dream I remember, in big expansive universes so distanced from this one. Different societies, cultures, ways of being. Waking up is a disappointment. I'm not sure how to help you, except I offer that perhaps a good way is to let yourself grieve what you've lost. Light a candle, or write a memorial, something private in memory of what you had for a night but now no longer is. Personally, I burn a stick of incense and think and watch the smoke. When the last bit of smoke has dissipated into the air, I say my goodbyes and move on.

[DawnEye11]

I know how you feel cause I don't really have my own friends who I can really talk to or hang out with and I've been like this for a year and a half i guess since i graduated high school. ow0 Well, even in high school at the end of the school year no one really payed much attention to me until i spoke up. :/ Just make the first move. That's what I did when i had no friends to sit with at lunch during high school at my last year there. After i spoke up and sat with someone i kind started to have friends but than i graduated high school and left them behind. In my dreams there are characters i use to have strong bonds with but I haven't really payed much attention to them since i met people on a online game on the 3ds. I haven't met them face to face but we really do need to speak up or make the first move if we really want friends. But choose your friends wisely. Cause if you don't, you'll end up wishing you never met them.

[zimangold]

Send her a message saying "I know this is weird, but I had this crazy dream where...".

[Hebdomeros]

Send that message expecting nothing good or bad. I've had plenty of dreams where I'm in relationships with people I'm not in real life I think its because were more expressive and emotional when we're relaxed (not trapped tense emotion but flowing relaxed emotion) I think dream emotion is pure emotion and your body is in its most relaxed state so you can feel more intensely.

[RavenOfShadow]

I think this dream is telling you that you yearn for someone to be close to, and that its time to put yourself out there and develop similar relationships. Humans aren't meant to be islands; we need love and support on many levels. So pick up the phone, open facebook, do something to reach out and begin cultivating friendships. When your body is deficient in something, your stomach craves food that has the nutrient. When our souls crave something, our dreams tell us likewise.