Thread: Extreme anger in dreams

I warn you it's a long-winded read that only really makes sense from my point of view. So if you want to respond about anger in dreams, do not feel like you have to read this whole thread just say something you want to say and i'm sure i'll be glad to hear it. And makes for a good addition on anger in dreams.

So.. Sometimes I get extremely angry in non-lucids and I'm not sure where it comes from. I.E. Last dream I got so angry at my neighbour for pushing the door at me. I wanted to get into the room and had something important to say to the people in it. I just coulden't take that he jokingly pushes the door and upsets my body (ever so slightly) so i hit him and got into a verbal fight. I made sure that I would hit the back of his head lightly so he feels the exact pressure that I felt from the door. He did not like it so we got verbal and i angrily expressed him i'm just giving an eye for an eye here. It occurs to me that this 'door' and not letting me in. Is synonym for him coming at my door and me not letting him in

For one thing, I would never do such a thing to my neighbour.. I like him a lot he is a nice and sensitive guy and I would never go on a limb to hurt him, not even in the slightest. Teach him a lesson? Maybe.. But I would rather not hurt him in the process. Another thing I understood is that yesterday I thought a lot about some father issues. My dad used to try and raise me by becoming 'an eye for an eye', when I come in late for example. He would not scold me telling me that normal people do not appreciate it if you are late. He would try to act like he thinks a normal person would and become angry. I really think he should have just explained to me what he wanted to teach because all he did by becoming angry is playing on my emotions and inducing fear. Never really appealed to my rational there. Anyway, this behaviour seems to subconsciously creep into my behaviour. It is the few things that I took with me from home without me knowing it. Funny how it are those things that I never really thought about which have such big effect on me.

Anyway.. Drifting off here. My neighbour also happened to slightly annoy me by knocking on my door two times a day asking for trivial stuff or asking if i wanted to 'chill' even though I really wanted some alone time. This angered me slightly. This dream at the surface had absolutely nothing to do with those occurences. but nevertheless it is the only trace of anger I can actually relate to. But again, I wasn't that angry, mostly just annoyed. In the dream tho i was raging.

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Another dream was with an ex-crush. I tried asking her out 5-6 times and she said no. We had some conversations on facebook but that's about it. In dreams though, they have progressed from occasionally meeting her in school to actually dating, having sex, hugging, bickering with her parents. All sorts of stuff. Then not long ago it progressed into bickering with each other. And the last dream I recall I had a huge fight and got extremely angry at her. For no reason that I can remember! I recall that a friend of mine in this dream said that there's no reason I should be so upset at her. I thought that there was 'some' reason. Eventually I woke up and I can't believe I would get so angry to the point that she cried. Feeling really guilty about it.

The only thing in real life here I may have gotten annoyed with was some of her colder responses and a bit of rejection. But honestly, I completely understand her behaviour. I did notice in both cases that I would get a little annoyed sometimes without even realizing it during conversations. So maybe that part of me is the supressed anger being released in tiny amounts in real life. In a lucid dream shortly before this dream i remember she talked about inviting herself over for all sorts of activities with me. A part of me which I don't recognized responded (with 100% patience but a little snappy) that she shoulden't assume that I even want to do these activities with her. Which is weird because i said this in a lucid dream. I seem to keep my patience in lucid dreams much better than non-lucids. But me saying that I do not want to do activities with her is stupid because I would love to go out with her still.. Starting to confuse myself here, lol.

Another thing I noticed is that when i'm around her I tend to fight more in dreams. 2 times have I been punching random people in dreams while around her. And in real life, I got into a wrestling fight (for fun) with another guy. So there's a really clear connection there.

What is the matter here, i'm not sure. I do a good job at tracing back some emotions but what puzzles me is that it feels like a part of my emotions are missing. I seem to have all these feelings which I know nothing about. Writing this down feels awfully therapeutic tho.