Dealing with loss, through LD'ing

**theyearthreethousand** · 02-01-2011 08:26 AM

as we age, losing somebody close becomes more expectant. by losing somebody, I am not only referring to their death. in my experience, it is not an obscure thought to make parallels with losing a loved one in the breakdown of a relationship. obviously, they continue to live, but they cease to exist in your own world. it is harrowing, but hopefully, eventually easier to over come (as sometimes the void that has been left can be replaced by another person).

it has been a recurring theme that I encounter people I have lost in my dreams, I am often lucid. my dreams have always reflected my pure emotions that I feel in my heart, emotions that are often suppressed in my waking life. I have always liked this aspect of dreaming. this is not to say that I deprave myself of these emotions in waking life; but there comes a time when you have to stop grieving and move on, for your own benefit.

so, I am actually stuck over how to deal with these common encounters. like I mentioned, I am generally lucid (eventually). it is gut-wrenching and the regularity has began to effect my mood when I wake to start the day.

hopefully, I haven't been too vague. can anybody offer up some advice?

thanks.

**Tranquil Toad** · 02-01-2011 11:53 PM

You could use encountering these people in your dreams to perhaps give yourself some closure. Next time you see them, make the whole dream about finally saying goodbye. Give them one last goodbye hug, or do whatever seems right to you. Perhaps because this is being done at the level of your subconcious (the dream,) the sense of closure will go deeper than simply saying goodbye with your conscious, waking mind.

Many dreams are an expression of something that the conscious mind is not aware of. So if you still haven't truly let the person go emotionally, it will come out in your dreams regardless of whether you feel that way while awake. By saying goodbye in your dream perhaps you can get to the root of the problem.

**Peetee36** · 02-01-2011 11:56 PM

Yeah, don't see it as a sort of "You can't actually have this moment", think of it more about memories. And like Tranquil Toad said, use it as a chance to finally say goodbye or tell them something you'd always wanted to.