The nap thing might be it, when I go through my napping ritual I can LD at a very high percentage but I still have never had an LD during my regular sleep hours at night, even if I wake up in the middle of the night.

I just feel like the dream doesn't respond to arrogance. For example in a past dream I saw a bus that I wanted to drive, I get on the bus and since its a dream I think ok I am just going to throw people off the bus and tell them to get out. I throw one guy off who immediately gets back on and the people at the front of the bus are looking at me like who do you think you are telling us to get off the bus. I got caught up arguing with them telling them "this is my fucking bus" (I mean it IS my bus...) and I woke up laughing at myself because I lost my awareness in the argument.

Obviously if I don't really believe the dream will respond to arrogance then it wont, also I would never do this in real life nor do I feel like I am the type of person who can walk onto a bus and tell everyone to get off and they would do it. I feel like maybe if I asked them nicely they would get off but at the same time you should be able to do ANYTHING in these dreams so it shouldn't matter how I ask.