There are many stabilization guides that can help you
Dream Stabilization and Clarity Tutorial - Lucid Dreaming - Dream Views
How To Stay Lucid in Dreams and Increase Dream Intensity
Dream Control Training Course

I must say that it's not good to get irritated or mad because of lucid dreaming. Lucid dreaming is something fun, a hooby if you wish, it's something we are supposed to get mad of. It's something that we are supposed to get happy with. So take it easy, and enjoy your quest towards happiness and beyond

Oh and about the DJ. I know that you won't work with my advice but it's better to keep a DJ, and not just for remembering dreams and improving dream recall, but you can keep track of your progress, recognize dream sings, and enjoy reading your previuos LDreaming experiences.