Thread: I feel so lazy...

Lucid dreaming is best approached in a longterm view, that is what will give you the most result and motivation and fun.

For example when was in school I used to aim for really high goals in a short period of time. Ths just made me stressed, frustrated, discouraged, and even make me perform worse compared to if I just had a smaller goal.

So what is the mindset of a longterm lucid dreaming practise?

* Don't focus on what is not within your control - it's irrational. For example: if you attain lucidity or not, if you don't remember a dream, if you get a dryspell. Those things are actually within your control, but as a beginner they are less in control since you don't have the experience of it, it's like saying that a baby is in control of be able to walk. So for now, don't focus on it. Just find happiness whenever you do something that you know is going towards this, and that is how you act and think about things within your control.

* Focus on the process of learning rather than result. If you focus on change you will get result, if you focus on result you will never change.

* Do what is within your control, like taking action and do what you know needs to be done.

* Focus on the positive things rather than the negative things, and at best see the positive in the negative.
The truth is that things are never good or bad, they just ARE. So you decide what things are for you.
Does thinking "I am so worthless I didn't had a lucid dream this morning..." help you? No it does not...
Does thinking "Oh I wonder what I can learn from this experience/ attempt!" help you? Yes it does!

Also remember that you can't stay on top or do your very best all the time, it goes up and down and there is a reason for that.
Here is a video that explain pickup mindset, although it works for general longterm perspectives as well:

Expansion And Contraction! How The Game Gives You Experiences To Become An Adult - YouTube

Also remember to focus on what is fun. To have fun is the best road ro succeeding. I for example like the practise of lucid dreaming better than the dream experience itself. I love the lessons I learn from my practise more than lucidity itself. I love it so much that I no longer keep a DJ for my dreams (although now I have some kind of natural dream recall), I never reality check in the day, and the reason for this is because I have experimented with other theories of dreaming and sleep and well life in general and found things that have excited me and the failures and the lessons from the failures have made me understand what works for me and what's not.

* In a longterm mindset, failures is where the best lessons come from. Successful people see failures as an oppurtunity to learn, people who don't just get discouraged by them and might even call it quits.

This success in what ever you do is not based on what you do, but on what you learn and how long you endure.
Which is why the best technique for lucid dreaming, is the one that motivates you the most.

You can look in my Dream Journal and you will see how lessons from previous explorers and my own experiences are more valuable to me than the experienes I get.

I hope that this gives some comfort. Don't identify yourself with the problem, you are not lazy, you are just like everybody else.

However you decide if you want to be the small procent that continue towards mastery or if you quit.

Although just because I told you this I guess you will take action.

Have fun