I have had this problem to, I bet just about everyone has, although I haven't reached a stage of total control yet from my own experience this happened a few times but the more of these I had I would notice that I would be slightly more awake if that makes sense, everyone is different when it comes to lucid dreaming it takes longer for some to do it than it does for others but I can tell you that the longer you stick at it even though you may not have a single lucid dream for month or multiple months the more likely you are to succeed. Personally I find the hardest part is keeping motivated, remembering to do reality checks, dream journal and reading about lucid dreaming that sort of stuff. Just keep trying and eventually you will have that experience where you gain full self awareness.