So in the last few years, lucid dreaming started coming to me naturally, ive never had to use any of the techniques to do it. Problem is although I'm aware I'm dreaming I can't exert to much control over the dream without waking myself up.

How it usually goes is I either just let events unfold naturally in the dream and can make small changes to the environment or people, usually I try to make a girl appear... for reasons...., or I'll try to fly or give myself godlike powers, same stuff everyone tries I imagine.

The success of this varies between dreams. If I try too hard I begin to feel myself waking up and have to stop.

What that leads to usually is the entire dream freezing around me. No people are there, no new events happen, tho I'm still in control of myself. I haven't been able to alter the dream from this state once I'm there.

If anyone has any ideas why this happens and any ideas on how to strengthen my control over the dream scape it would be much appreciated.