Thread: I feel like quitting

I don't know what you've been trying, but you seem at your wit's end. In that case, I recommend keeping at it for one last week - and the whole week, do reality checks every few minutes. It might take some remembering at first, but it should become easier as you go. I know it's a bit extreme to do reality checks that often, but trust me it WILL pay off if it becomes routine for you. DILDs are the easiest to get, but they require long-term effort.

i feel your pain, inducing lucid dreams is very very hard, and ive been even more unsuccessful than you =( only having one LD and i lost control of it once i realized i was dreaming. its the fact that now i know its possible that keeps me going, all you have to do is try

I just don't know how you guys keep up the faith. Like, how do you keep yourself positive?

Originally Posted by Truffles

I just don't know how you guys keep up the faith. Like, how do you keep yourself positive?

i only been at it for like two months but, i mean, i dont have too much pressure on it, every night i think it would be NICE to have a lucid dream, but i dont try to force myself to it.

so I dont really get no pressure at all.

Are you successful?

just one ld with semi controllability.
but i get so excited even if I do a reality check in a dream.

I mean, i enjoy every little thing, even remembering my dreams.
I dont have my hopes too high so im never dissapointed.

i also had a semi ld where i realized i was dreaming, but i couldnt control much, but i DID manage to turn my nightmare upside down and I was happy all day after that

Many find that when they stop really trying to lucid dream, that they begin to have them more. Probably due to the reduced stress they're giving themselves or something like that.

My advice to you is carry on with the reality checks and dream journal, but chill out a bit.

What Alex said.

But you think you've got it bad? I've been here a year, and had 2 that weren't very memorable. Its different for everyone.

My ill-success is based on a number of factors, many involving personal stress, large breaks in between, and so on. But remember, there are those who have it worse.

4 in 10 months isn't horrible either, vivid or not. Thats not bad. You'll get there, try not to worry about it. Everyone has a different pace.

Have you tried WILDs? Ever felt sleep paralysis? Is it easy for you to remember your dreams?

From the second I started trying to LD (few weeks ago), I felt discouraged a bit. Then I kept a journal of my dreams and for the last week I've remembered at least 1 a night. I've tried WILDing and noticed I was in sleep paralysis. Both of these things have helped motivate me, even though I'm nowhere near having a LD yet. So, I suggest just trying to keep improving. Even if you can't improve much, every little bit helps, and it makes you more determined to keep at it, too.

Good luck!

I haven't been trying too long...

but It isn't all that hard work, once RC's become second nature and a dreamjournal becomes routine there isnt alot to give up.

unles syour attempting WILD each night, which i can understand.


if i were you i would forget about it all and just keep doing RC's and DJ, as routine, even forgetting what they mean, then it might even come easier to you.

I was feeling the same way as you about 2 months ago. At that point, I had been trying for three months. I had 4 lucid dreams, but two of them were so short they can hardly be counted. The other two were longer, but rather unimpressive. I couldn't do very much in the dreams, they weren't very eventful - certainly not the euphoric experiences everyone was describing.

I thought that, though interesting, Lucid Dreaming just wasn't worth all of the mental effort I was putting into it.

Then I bought Stephen LeBarge's Exploring the World of Lucid Dreaming. The book was absolutely fascinating - It was like rediscovering Lucid Dreaming. Even though I "knew" most of the information from the book by frequenting this site, the way it was presented inspired me to take different approaches, which were ultimately more successful.

Since reading the book, I have had seven lucid dreams over the past two months. Two of those dreams rank officially as Best. Ever.

So, idk, looks like I was having a bit more success than you even before I bought the book, but if it's motivation you're lacking, definitely buy EWOLD. Barnes and Noble has it at their online store, if you can't find it.

think of it like this , maybe next week you will have an LD everynight and found the correct method for yourself . And then later ur able to do it all the time , maybe ur one of thos pple who try and have little results but when the results come its a massive result

Just take a break. You will probably have a DILD.

Taking a break is DEFINATELY the best way to go about it. I can share my story with you.

I tried lucid dreaming for about a month and half, and only had two. I am also a student, and it was interfering with my sleep, so I gave it up!

I only write down the most interesting dreams these days - and still have the occasional lucid. Don't expect to have them every night! You won't. Think of them as an extra bonus (most people go through adult life without many at all). I have one about every two weeks, DILD. I am happy with that. I will perhaps try for more when I finish my studies.

Seriously...just stop - resume later if you wish.

This happened to me too, but Now I realized what was the problem and I'm almost sure this is happening with you..

I became fascinated and obsessed with the idea of LUCID DREAMING..(WOW my OWN MATRIX, yara yarah).. but problem was that I wished and tried very hard to make this what looked like something magical to become real.. !HERE IS THE PROBLEM..!!

Deep down you think that Lucid dreaming is just kind of impossible (but..still you wish for it to be true).. is like proving your self wrong.
(WRONG POINT OF VIEW TO HAVE).

you have to work on believing 100% that LD is possible, you have delete every doubt of negativity in your mind..like LD is part of your nature this makes LDs come natural, because they are part of you.

In some way. you have to let yourself go, believe, "free your mind", dont try to analize everything, just think that Lucid dream is what you do when you go to sleep, Is part of who you are.

Now, you must keep a Dream Journal, helps a lot.. have a good dream recall, beacause what is the point of having a LD and not remembering it.

BUST UP your confindence, make that shift in your perception of things.


I'm just puting my little grain of sand..hope it helps..

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Yes it is quite simple; you do not believe you will be successful. All you have to do is believe that you will have a lucid and you will. It is a catch 22 until you get good at it. At first you find it hard to convince yourself that you have this power, but once you see it in action, your confidence will grow. Once you gain confidence, you will have more lucids...it has a snowballing effect.

If you continue to believe that you can master LDing you will and eventually you will never doubt yourself again. LDs will become easy and regular. Sound too good to be true? That is the problem. Do not think of it as difficult. Say to yourself, "I will have a lucid dream tonight" just as sure as you are about sleeping. This has the same effect on WILDs, and once you can get those down, you are there.

Originally Posted by Truffles

I just feel like quitting.

Don't blame you one bit Truffles. Most people who attempt to master lucid dreaming probably feel like quitting at one time or another. In fact, I've given up on it several times, and then later started trying again. It's just so hard to master for the majority of people.

One thing I've found helpful is setting my goals a little lower by concentrating more on dream recall and trying to feel good about that instead of expecting to be lucid.

I figure if I can remember around 200 dreams a month, that surely I might be able to become lucid in at least one or two of those dreams, but sometimes even that doesn't work, in which case I try to just be happy with having as many vivid dreams as I had.

By setting your goal a bit lower to something like just remembering as many dreams as you can, it is easier to keep a positive attitude and feel like you are accomplishing something, rather than getting bummed out by how few lucid dreams you've had.

And the positive attitude you develop from being confident about your dream recall can then make it easier to have lucid dreams.

I'm learning as I type because this is something I need to start doing again myself, as I have been bummed out lately also from a dry spell I've been going through.

Best of luck to you.

Thanks for all the help guys. Replying to a few questions, I do try WILDs quite often. Maybe 2-3 times a week. This SOMETIMES makes me lucid, but only for a few seconds. I mostly get to SP and then just fall asleep accidentaly. I remember almost all of my dreams, usually 2-3 per night. I'll give this positive thinking thing a try, I understand how it could work and all that. I'll try it. Like said before, thanks for all the help guys