Hello, why do you want to lucid dream?

Are you having difficulties lucid dreaming? Remembering your dreams?

Are you having sleeping problems? Uncomfortable nights?

Are you finding life dismal? Perhaps it is perfectly content?

Before delving into learning how to lucid dream, it is best to ask yourself, "Why?". I have tried to teach many people how to lucid dream and, many times, this simple question leads to an entirely new resolution.

I. Do you want to be able to be in control?

II. Do you want to escape the stress of regular life?

III. Do you want to control your erradic sleep?

IV. Do you want fulfill fantasies?

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I. Sleep In Order to Control?
"The harder you press onto a wall, the more you try to force it, will only revert all the more stress on yourself."

If you are seeking a feeling of control, I'd like you to ask why? Do you feel out of control in your waking life? Why? Why do you not talk back? Why do you subject yourself to others wills or, better yet, why do you not try and find ways to connect with others rather than distance yourself?

The choice is ultimately yours.

You do not have to let others influence you. You are always the one in control of your providence. Never forget that you can deliberately change your attitude at any time for any reason that you wish.

No one can take this away from you.

Is there a gun to your head? You have the choice to leave, to say no, to find help, to fight back, or to choose to enjoy it! No one, no matter what the case, can take away your ability to choose how you feel and who you are.

Control your life, not your dreams.

Do not delude yourself and give into a diversion of the real issue. If you are feeling alienated by society, find ways to integrate, not to isolate. You may say, "Well, I like to be isolated" but why would you? You do not like the trends that others do? I think that the very fact that you are reading this shows that there are, in fact, others in the world that do share your interests. Go find them! Communicate!

II. Escape?
"No matter how far you run, your shadow will always follow you."

Problems, conflicts, emotions, and all things that are human will encompass your life wherever you go. Any job, school, social clique, parents, friend, and even dreams will offer challenges and problems.

Embrace chaos.

Without chaos and stress in life, there would really be no reason to think or find ways to enjoy life. You need stress and you need chaos in order to embrace the better things in life. The more stress you have, the more you will appreciate those short moments of exuberance. Keep in mind, however, that you do not need others in order to be happy.

Dreams are not an escape.

Unfortunately, you will wake up. You cannot run away from your responsibilities. There is no harm in taking this up either. Find ways that you can enjoy things and life rather than focusing on the negatives and what you dislike.

"The longer you stare into the darkness, the more that darkness becomes you."

You are the one who is choosing to stare into the darkness or not.

III. Sleep problems.
"You cannot chase two rabbits at the sametime.

Focus at one issue at a time. While lucid dreaming may seem overwhelmingly amazing and inspiring, it will also make you feel alienated and like a candy that you cannot have. Be patient.

One step at a time.

Figure out what is causing you these problems before looking too far ahead. Keep your eyes fixed just ahead of you rather than on the horizon. Seek help for your insomnia problems or breathing issues; whichever it is, keep focus.

You can get help and there are many who want to offer it.

IV. Fulfill Fantasies

While fulfilling fantasies can be harmless in the long run, it is important to keep control of your desires and remember that they are dreams.

Fantasies are nothing compared to real life.

Nothing you can dream of is more amazing than what is right infront of you. Think about it; you are trying to find a way to control your unconsciousness via some method in the tangible world. Could you ever dream of something so transcendent and intriguing? A simple view of fractals (or SolSkye's threads) will show you just how inspiring life can really be.

If you are seeking to fulfill fantasies which are simply not capable in life, keep in mind that some are very well capable and it is this notion you have that they are not which deters your ability to make them come to fruition.

Do not dream of what you can do; just do it!

Dreaming of how to talk to a girl? How to kiss a guy? What to say to someone? What you would do if someone died or asked you to marriage? You have many people who are willing to help you and offer you their vast experiences in life.

Dreams are completely isolated - you dream alone.

Open yourself up to others instead of shelling yourself and a whole new world will reveal itself to you.

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Be careful. The rise of self-awareness across the horizon can sometimes be blinding.

I hope this has been enlightening.

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