What am I doing wrong?

[DerekG]

Hello, I have been trying to accomplish a lucid dream for about 4 days now, but so far I've only been having normal dreams, and a weird OBE of some sort. But none the less, I have a dream journal, and I do reality checks often while at school, home, and when working in the yard, and even playing video games. I say before I go to bed repeadly, "I am going to have a lucid dream tonight". Maybe 10 times? What am I doing wrong and can you suggest anything for me to help me with the process of this? Thank you, -Derek G.

[eppy]

Sometimes it takes weeks. months. years. just keep trying.

[Sentaku]

Sometimes it takes weeks. months. years. just keep trying. He's right. I've had 5 in 2 years

[eppy]

well it's good that you are still trying i would have been very discouraged.

[DerekG]

Okay, thanks guys. (:

[BigFan]

Just keep going at it. You'll eventually have one. In my case, I had one a week after I started practicing and when I had it, I was taking a break from WILDing, so, it's possible that when you take a break, you might have one

[lucid_renegade]

it took me months to just start getting the hang of it... but trust me... keep working at it because it really is something you will enjoy doing

[yuriythebest]

took me around a month now I have regular LD's

[Elkfazer]

well it's good that you are still trying i would have been very discouraged. Is that a hint of sarcasm I see there? I mean, I don't get it when some people come on here after a few days and consider themselves to be doing something wrong if they don't have an LD straight away. Seriously though, it took me 4 months to have my first LD and another 4 months to have my next 2, but I'm always working on it, trying new techniques and mind-state awareness throughout the day. Keep at it though and you'll have one within a few months at least I reckon, depending on how diligent you are with the process.

[Mystery55]

To be honest i was rater discouraged after two days of not having a lucid dream as friend of mine says he was about 3-4 every week with our trying. I know now he is either lying or loved by god. But i figure its not to hard to learn how to lucid dream, doing RC around the day and keeping a DJ only take 5-10 minutes out of my day but its a kick in the balls to hear stories about people that have there first LD in a couple of nights.

[rookybeats]

Don't try too much. If you're discouraged, stop trying. You're only going to have a bad stigma regarding LDs, and you'll have less in return. Take a break for a few days, catch up on some needed sleep or whatever but keep LDing low in your priority list. Rcing is optional but don't stress it. I had the same problem back when I first started, but I stopped for a while. It helped my mind relax, and I ended up having an LD in the form of a DILD. Ironic, eh?

[DarkLucideity]

What am I doing wrong Expecting to LD within 4 days on your first try.

[eppy]

Is that a hint of sarcasm I see there? haha i was talking to sentaku and not the OP.

[Mariano]

ah! don't get discouraged for only 4 days... I am trying since 4 months and I never have one, but at least I discover something that will help me a lot...but that's another story

[DerekG]

Oh okay, thanks for all who posted to reply. Sorry, I didn't know it was something you had to work on for some time. I beleive I was lucid for like 2 minutes last night. Thank you all. -Derek G.

[Dissociation]

I´m always a bit jealous when I read that people had a lucid dream the night after reading about it the first time. I had 2 in 2 years now and it needs a strong will to keep on going for month and month, even if you have no success. nice to hear you did have a lucid experience last night I wish you all the best for more of them.

[DarkLucideity]

I´m always a bit jealous when I read that people had a lucid dream the night after reading about it the first time. I had 2 in 2 years now and it needs a strong will to keep on going for month and month, even if you have no success. Actually, that probably means you're doing something wrong. You might have more success with a different technique than the one you're using. I assume it's DILD, so look into WILD. Even for people good at DILD it can be somewhat unpredictable, and it's not very straightforward to master. Though WILD is harder, once you manage to get the steps down, it's very reliable. Trust me, if you're only getting one LD per year, you should try to do things differently. However, when trying a new technique (this is for anyone reading), stick with it for a while, even if it doesn't work at first. I've seen people switch their main technique every week because they see some new technique that looks exciting and effective.

[Dissociation]

thanks pojmaster17q! You´re absolutely right, I am doing something wrong. I´m trying to find out what it is and I´m also trying new techniques. I always heard that WILD is harder, so of course I wanted to start with DILD. But the two lucid dreams I had were WILD, so I want to focus more on this now. I´m still doing my RC (dont want to stop with this). My problem is that there is only one day per week in which I have enough time to sleep as long as I want. during the week I cant get up after 6 hours and then go to bed again, hoping for a WILD. But I dont accept this as an excuse to myself, so I keep on going.