Thread: Hello and a question bout Love

Welcome to dreamviews mermansora

I suggest to you that you should try to find a real person to love, not to be mean but it is silly to be in love with a video game character, you can never really be with them. Sure you could see him in a dream and have a "relation" with him, but whats the point of having a relation with someone that doesn't have real emotions or thoughts. I believe that its best to find somebody that can love you back, it'll make you happier.

sorry if I'm sounding mean, I'm just trying to help you out

You can of course do what ever you see fit in your dreams. Spending time with some person whether they be a real person or a fictional character is entirely possible. I have been in love with some one in my dreams before. I have also spent time in my dreams with some one that I had a huge crush on in real like. Those dreams are fun and feel great. In the end though dreams just are not enough. For a real long lasting relationship a person needs something tangible, a real person.

Well is kind of an strange relationship , i kinda am with him in some sort , but i kinda wanna take it to another level in some way or another. But i must say , it was just an mistake for me , i mean i never been expecting to have an real partner , and then i fell for him suddenly , but apart from him im starting to dont want an real one , more part of the depression and anxiety i have specially when seeing another real couples on the street is because i wanna be with him.

Is ok i understand , but at the moment I think at last i wanna give it a try to this relationship , it does is silly but i think i would regret it more in my future not doing it than doing it.

Originally Posted by MermanSora

...as long has i can be able to see him in the eyes at last one first and maybe last time is enough for me ...

I think this is a good idea, face "him" in your lucid dream once and go have some fun with it. Of course, as others have said, this is not a substitute for real love . But it might help you deal with the situation for sure. Also I dont see anything harmful in this as long as you realise it is all in your head and as long as you stay open to solving your issues in real life (Im saying, dont just "flee" into your head from your problems). Good luck with it!

Well, understand that if you do see him in your dream world, it is just a manifestation of your own mind. I think it's fine if you want to lucid dream and find him. Anything thing he says to you will really be you talking to yourself, and any love you feel will be you loving yourself.

Learning to love yourself is more important than loving someone else. If you have emotional issues like anxiety, loving yourself will help that. You cannot love someone else before you love yourself.

You acknowledge that you love an illusion. That is more real that people that love illusion without being aware of the fact that the object of their love is an illusion.

Example: A person who loves money. Money is an idea that we collectively agree upon, therefore illusion. The person who loves money may be aware they love money. They may even say, "I love money." But, they are not aware that money is illusion.

Another Example: A person who is in love with someone they have never spoken to. If you have never spoken to someone, there is no way you can know them well enough to really love them. But, you fantasize about your ideal mate, and your mind fills in all the gaps to make them perfect, when they have flaws just like the rest of us. They are not in love with the person. They are in love with an idealized version of them, a fantasy, therefore an illusion.

I don't think being in love with a video game character is any sillier than being in love with a celebrity, or someone you see every day but never talk you. I have felt more stronger emotional bonds toward video game characters in RPG's than ones in movies. You play the game for hours. You watch the characters develop. You listen to hours and hours of conversation. Your subconscious does not discern between fantasy and reality.

The video game character is a manifestation of what a someone thought a good and noble person should be. That person's ideal matches your ideal, so there are people in the world that think like you.

Recognize the illusory nature of dream and waking life. I say embrace the one you love in your dreams, and realize he is you.

Lol for a second i thought u were a GUY
(sorry-not meant to be offensive to any gender)
anyways, i think it's ok to be a bit in love with un-real characters (mmm... pass the Princess Peach lol)

---but to not think about/notice any other guys is pretty strange... especially for 4 yrs

I think love is always a beneficial emotion to encourage, even if it is directed somewhere bizarre. In this case, I agree with WalkingNomad (and George Benson, and Whitney Houston). Any character in your dreams is really just an extention of yourself. Falling in love with yourself is awesome!

I also don't think it is that unhealthy to fall in love with an imaginary person. People fall in love with imaginary religious figures, like Jesus, all the time.

Originally Posted by Robot_Butler

I also don't think it is that unhealthy to fall in love with an imaginary person. People fall in love with imaginary religious figures, like Jesus, all the time.

mmmm. I love Can'O'Worms for dinner! HAHAH:

I see nothing wrong in being with DC's, as long as the attachment doesn't grow too strong with them, to the point where you NEED them in your dreams... What am I saying? I haven't even had a lucid dream yet. :/