HELP PLEASE---mix of recurring and violent-themed dreams

[Lizzie]

So, recently I've been having both recurring dreams about my ex-boyfriend and very violent themes. I'll begin with my dreams about my ex... For about a week in a row, I had a very similar dream every night involving my ex. He just kind of "popped up" in the dream in very random public places--in front of my mall, in front of a building on my campus, etc. The weird thing is I never dreamt about him this much in my life until about 2 weeks ago, even when we had been dating. Anyways, when he appears in the dream, we just talk about little things, once or twice he's hugged me. It's extremely friendly though we do not talk to each other now and while we were dating he was more of an asshole than a nice guy; maybe this is the reason that these dreams are occurring, also perhaps because I have a new boyfriend who I love very much and hate thinking of my ex all the time. Now my violent dreams vary a lot and maybe I will go into more detail about them later but a majority of them involve this theme of intense guilt and throughout the dreams I feel like I have murdered someone. In a few of these dreams I was actually searching for the body of the person that I had killed and was desperately trying to hide it. These dreams are very distressing to me in different ways. HELP?!?!

[Different]

Hey, 1. About your ex - Unless you're lucid you can't necessarily get rid of him in your dreams. The good thing in terms of lucid dreaming however is that he may be one of your dream signs. In other words, next time you see him in real life, do a RC, and if you don't see him much IRL - even better, as whenever you do, you'll have a better chance of realising that you're dreaming. 2. About the murders - once again, unless lucid you can't really stop that. Don't worry - it's just a dream. They are all part of your subsconscious, and you aren't murdering anyone in real life. Just ignore it, it doesn't mean you're a murderer or anything. I'm pretty sure you'd never murder anyone in real life anyway. For both instances getting lucid would REALLY help to solve these problems, so that's about all I can suggest.

[Peetee36]

You don't need to worry about it. Unless there's still something going on with your ex in real life (I don't mean you're still seeing him, but if he did something that made you hate him, or there's just memories etc.) then I would just ignore it. The murders don't necessarily mean that you're a bad or evil person, they could just happen. I had a week of dream killing sprees once, but I still don't know why.

[Lizzie]

alright thanks guys! the only reason I don't do lucid dreaming is because after my current boyfriend tried lucid dreaming, he developed serious sleep paralysis--he gets it literally about 5 times a night.

[Kamus]

You can't "develop" sleep paralysis, it is a natural condition that happens every time you sleep, lest we'd act like we're in the dream. Now, about the dreams, two things. Either he ( your boyfriend ) is one of your dream signs, as someone else already told you, or he is merely....nothing. I see people everyday worried about what happens in their dreams, they want something different to happen, keep searching for that something both weird and special to happen. Because no one wants to be normal, and everyone wants to be special. They're just dreams, don't try to make sense of them, yes?

[zark]

You might be having these dreams because some where in your mind this is what you always wanted to do with him. So in your dreams you recreate him as you wanted him to be. Of course I could be wrong, but this is what I thought of when I read this.

[Lizzie]

Kamus --- Isn't the whole point of this site to analyze each others' dreams and learn more about them? Zark --- Great point. That may be true

[Kamus]

I thought this was a website about dreams, with special focus on Lucid Dreaming. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to analyze your dreams, but I believe it's what I told you. There's not much sense in the ways our dreams evolve, but many are trying to understand them, and by wanting to understand them, they end up doing that. When we, humans, want something, even if it is unachievable, our brains will start to find solutions, even if they require the brain to fool itself into believing they are real. I'm not saying they are not, but many times, when someone is trying to analyze - understand, if you may - a dream, they get one or two ideas of what the dream is about hiding inside their heads. Those ideas will flourish over time, growing, growing, until the person really does believe that's what they are about. Now, our dreams have the strange, albeit nice capability to solve some of our daily problems, as some have said before in another topic I don't remember. Let's take your dream, for instance your dreaming about your boyfriend. As Zark said before, it's completely possible that, by wanting to do certain things with him, or even wanting him to do certain things with you, you've induced a dream with him as a theme. Now, doesn't that sound familiar? MILD it is! It could not be, it could be completely random as I told you before, but it could very well be this. Now, let's take this information and go back to the point where I started: People see what they want to see. With the newly added info, we go back to my argument ( That, mind you, was about the violent dreams, sorry if I didn't explain myself clearly. Maybe I got mixed up, my attention was focused elsewhere at the time. ) You keep dreaming about violent things, you're filled with guilt and dread. You start to think that maybe those dreams mean something, maybe they're trying to tell you something. ( This is an example, yes? ) Those thoughts are driven to the very back of your mind, creating some sort of mantra. When you sleep, the mantra takes it's place in altering your dream world, and you end up with another violent dream. That is possible, yes? MILD again. You get my point? Many times, when someone wants a dream to be analyzed, they're simply feeding their dreams. There's nothing wrong with that, mind me. Now, on top of that, that very example may be wrong, there's no way to know. At least until someone discovers what our dreams are made of, we can only speculate. Perhaps they mean something, in a more liberal, powerful sense of the word, instead of the usual problem-solving and suggestion-induced dreams we're used to study. Perhaps, we're all wrong, and they're something completely spectacular - not that they aren't already -, out of our imagination and comprehension. Maybe, just maybe, they aren't dreams, they are glimpses from the lives of other persons, in other dimensions. See, if one delves too much into what a dream is, there're so many possibilities, it's completely possible and plausible to get lost in the midst of them. I didn't mean to be rude, that was merely my opinion, yes? If you want me to try and analyze your dream in my way, I can do that. But I'd have to agree with Zark, if we're to analyze it, it seems the most likely.

[Lizzie]

alright I see your point now. thank you for the help!