I didn't start my lucid dream count until i was 100% sure that i was lucid. By proving my lucidity i took steps... Went outside my waking boundaries and challenged everything around me. For me? Its as simple as pushing over some glass that doesn't break or doesn't make the right sound when it breaks. Best thing i can tell you at this point is, keep trying! You may have been lucid but not having control is a big setback. Learning the right skills necessary to control your dreams is the key to efficient lucid dreaming.