Trying to learn lucid dreaming since almost 2 years, need help!

[Dissociation]

hi guys, I really have a problem. I´m trying to learn to have lucid dreams since almost 2 years now and had only 2 (very short) lucid dreams. And I dont even know what I´m doing wrong. I can remember at least 2 dreams per night, I write down my dreams since 1 1/2 years and I know them well. I know my dream signs (mostly context), I´m doing a lot of reality checks during the day. I fall asleep thinking about lucid dreaming and I wake up thinking about it. But I have no success. When I heard that obsession over it could keep you from having lucid dreams I stopped thinking about it for some weeks, and then started from the beginning. I have a generalized anxiety disorder and I´m wondering if this has anything to do with it. I´m afraid and obsessed over control, but shouldnt this help me getting even more aware about my current situation (whether dream or not)? anyway, I´m gonna give everything to finally be able to get lucid in dreams. And I´m sure this board will help me

[PuppyCat]

Welcome to Dreamviews! Which methods of lucid dreaming are you using? Some are a lot easier than others. I would recommend browsing around HERE to learn more! If normal techniques just aren't working for you, I would recommend EILD. This stands for Externally Induced Lucid Dream. The most common way to EILD is to have lucid dream music playing while you sleep. Try THIS You can find some other EILD soundtracks HERE Good luck!

[Dissociation]

thanks Puppycat! Since my dreamsigns are usually odd contexts, I focused on asking myself where I am, who is with me, what I´m doing, if all this is possible etc... Reading and the clock doesnt work at all with me. Thanks for your advice on EILD! I tried this a few times, but I always just fell asleep with no success. Maybe I´m gonna focus on it a bit more again. I´m still trying to find the perfect LD trigger for me. I already often wondered about my situation when I was in a dream (last time was last friday), but my mind ALWAYS finds an explanation. I know that I need to get even more doubtful about reality, so I´m not satisfied with any explanation while dreaming and finally notice that it IS a dream. I dont care how long it will take to learn LD, I wont stop trying.

[PuppyCat]

Yeah, just don't give up! You may want to try some more extreme reality checks. Like flying or something. If you think you may be in a dream, but your mind is trying to cover it up, try to take flight, or poke your finger through your hand, or try to pull your arm off, or something stupid like that.

[Mariano]

mmm, I don't really think that can help, excuse me.. I think that the best you can do is to try a technique for life... I will PM you....

[Dissociation]

in the 2 lucid dreams I had the first thing I did was flying. But that happened when I was already lucid. I have no doubt that I´m gonna find the right way for me someday. it´s just a matter of time. during the next month I want to try MILD again (did it before, but only for some days and gave up because I was so bad in the exercises). But I think that maybe my chances of LD will rise if I improve my skills in remembering to do RCs at a special time.

[craig]

I have a generalized anxiety disorder and I´m wondering if this has anything to do with it. I´m afraid and obsessed over control, but shouldnt this help me getting even more aware about my current situation (whether dream or not)? anyway, I´m gonna give everything to finally be able to get lucid in dreams. And I´m sure this board will help me Try finding a wakeful habit such as studying your hands. Bone structure,wrinkles etc. If the habit persists, it can sometimes take place in the dream. When the indiffence is noticed it can act as a trigger. And can possibly let you know you have shifted. Most of the time our dream characters are in slightly different form if not greatly.

[Dissociation]

So far I always only made a RC of my surroundings but never of myself. I think I´m gonna add that to my reality checks. thank you for your help

[Desert Claw]

thats rough, buddy. I really hope you can make progress, for me it was like a lot of nothing until my first proper LD, then it started to pick up in frequency from there. anyway, the anxiety disorder could be something thats weighing you down... maybe try spending some time focusing on more relaxing thoughts, i dunno, like listening to calm music, or taking a walk... or something like that...

[Dissociation]

I´m also wondering if my anxiety is the problem. I know that anxiety patients are extremely hard to hypnotize. Maybe I just cant "let go" because my brain is always attentive. I dont know, maybe my subconsciousness is just too strong for me :/

[Lucid-Hunter]

Don't boost your subconscious up/let it get the better of you! You WILL be able to break this trend... Back yourself. I read that you only do a R/C of your surroundings... Id suggest definitely changing to a reality check of yourself, since you are always current and stable in your dreams. Anything such as the watch/nose etc. Personally I write AWAKE? on my hand every morning with a huge vivid lol BLUNT I know but it works a charm and its funny to see it always changing in dreams. You'll find yours for sticking to it this far! GOOD LUCK!