I felt the same waith with not being able to control myself but without a doubt I knew it was me. Reality checks are what it took for me. For almost 3 months of doing them I never once had a lucid dream. Then I sorta gave up, a week or two later I had several almost back to back and all but twice it was because I looked down at my hands and though "wtf?" and became lucid, the other two were from looking at my iPhone and noticing I couldn't do anything with it.