Need some help from experienced LD'ers

**CautiousSleeper** · 05-11-2010 04:38 PM

I have just joined the site i am 21 years old and have quite a few questions about this. The first being that iam on Effexor for PTSD(post traumtic stress disorder), i feel that LD could help me address the issue and maybe reduce and eventually eliminate the nned for this medication(which i dont feel a improvement from). I am obviously not solely intersted for this reason.

Anyways lately i have been having dreams which one of the people who tried to kill me(i was shot 3 times during a violent home invasion robbery by people that i knew due to drugs) is in them and we are friends again, i dont want this happening.

My psychologist doesnt know that i could lucid dream because everytime i become aware i wake up due to not feeling safe if im asleep just wondering about adoption program or anyone who knows how i can attain a lucid dream thanks hope theres alot of comments here, anyone with similar stories that have been able to become lucid let me know via PM.

Thanks

**Philosopher8659** · 05-11-2010 05:26 PM

For me, there was some fear training in LD, I always got over it by asking myself how important knowing was. There are a number of ways in which emotional response decreases awareness. I use to be terrified of people, it is not easy having a very high IQ, and never understanding other people. However, you have to ask yourself--can you achieve what you want in your life if you do not master the fear?

As far as meds and psychologists go, would you take your car to a mechanic who does not even know what a combustion engine is for?

**CautiousSleeper** · 05-11-2010 07:07 PM

I understand what your saying, but its not so much fear of the person as it is associating them as a friend that concerns me. What does this mean and if i can change it would it change my feelings towards the situation.

**Philosopher8659** · 05-12-2010 01:00 AM

I would not know about friendship. Many people consider themselves my friend, or friendly, I even had a movement at the plant when I was tossed out, spay painting to free me, however, however, I have always believed that one could only have one true friend in their life, their mate, but that has always remained just an assumption for me. I made a distinction between just being friendly, and friends. At all times, one can only be responsible for their own actions. A friend is someone you can dream with, and share ideas with, and well,

love is all the things two people do together to maintain and promote their life. It is not being happy, sad, flattered, or hated.

**CautiousSleeper** · 05-12-2010 01:07 AM

is there any way i could have some of your time in some sort of instant chat program of your choice?

**Philosopher8659** · 05-12-2010 01:11 AM

On this system, I am on wifi, when at work, well it does not allow the chat programs. So, it does not seem likely. Sides, I have very little free time, single parent of a 9 year old jedi Knight. sorry. I exist on the net with stolen moments.

**CautiousSleeper** · 05-12-2010 03:20 AM

Thanks anyway.

**Samael** · 05-12-2010 08:34 PM

its not so much fear of the person as it is associating them as a friend that concerns me.

So, within the dream, you're back in a time when the two of you were friends? And then, when you wake up, you're snapped back into a reality where this isn't true?

I could be way off, but it sounds like, at some level, you're just missing "a simpler time" that you almost wish you could get back to. Your anger at this person couldn't be more justifiable, and I am not saying that you should try to make nice, because that would make me an idiot. It might help your dreams, though, if you could accept whatever hope/wish/fantasy is creating these dreams as something you feel, though not necessarily as something beneficial. (Note: I am not saying that you need to forgive this person, only that it might help to accept your conflicting feelings regarding the situation.)

Note that I'd also accept the advice of a psychologist I've met face to face over some random entity on the internet (me). I'm just making suggestions that might affect your dreams.

As for lucid dreaming, if you think it can help you, absolutely go for it. I've found that lucid dreaming is a great tool in defeating your nightmares. Also, everyone's had one of those "everything is great" dreams where they wake up feeling awful. If you can be semi-aware, or even lucid, during your dreams, then when you meet this person in your dreams, you won't think of him as a friend.

So, my advice? Look for this person/situation as a dream-sign. If you see it, and you can remember that you were looking for it, you'll realize that you're dreaming. At this point, you can escape the dream, or go do something more fun.

**CautiousSleeper** · 05-12-2010 09:08 PM

I agree with a few of your points and feel that certainly this would make an excellent dream sign. As for a more simple time nicely put, I feel like forgivness is something I thought I had attained but this may be a sign that on an unconcious level I have not, by forgiveness i mean for my own mental health. Also thank you for your advice and if you would be willing to mentor me or just answer a few questions via pm but preferably instant messaging of somesort.

**Samael** · 05-12-2010 09:40 PM

Well, I can try my best to answer any questions you have via PM. I only use IM for people I know IRL though.

**CautiousSleeper** · 05-12-2010 11:39 PM

Makes sense ill try to put something together and message it to you.

**Max ツ** · 05-27-2010 06:33 AM

If you want a bit of extra help, I'd be glad to do so. I am free anytime. Just PM me, and I will see what I can do.
I don't have PTSD, but I DID have a serious problem with my reoccurring nightmares. I was so traumatized by them, it had significant effect on real life. LDing DEFINITELY helped me get rid of them.
We are all here to help. Feel free to ask!

PS what's with frankydream? Not that I mind, but it looks like a bot to me. I mean, was there even a reason to thank for some of the posts above?