I just joined, because I had questions about my LD experiences. Hi, everyone!

I've had quite a few lucid dreams (never really tried or trained to lucid dream purposely, it just happens). The moment I become lucid, everything in the dream freezes. People stop moving, sounds stop playing, etc. Then everything sort of.. shatters, for lack of a better term. Does anyone else experience it this way?

Also, once everything shatters, I'm left with blackness which I can (sometimes, rarely) control. But if I try too hard to control it, my body wakes up. Why is this? Is there any way to stop it? It seems like telling myself "No, do NOT wake up!" just makes it more likely to happen.