Thread: Love and sex what do you think?

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HAHAHA.

well, i think you can have sex without love, it is after all a primeval urge.
but if the love is there too, then you are sharing something important, rather than just fulfilling a need.

Sorry to here of such a sad story dreamtamer007.


I think sex is a primitive instinct. Not neccisariy having to relate to love. But love can take what we have. The combination of love, hormomes, sexual desires, body chemistry all combined could make sex into making love.
I also believe there is a gender differance as well. Most woman generally need to feel emotionally connected to their partner before they can feel their ultamate intamacy. Males on the other hand are more visually stimulated, and as a result can have sex and regard it as nothing more. With no emotional attachment.

well, i think you can have sex without love, it is after all a primeval urge.
but if the love is there too, then you are sharing something important, rather than just fulfilling a need.

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It is possible to have sex without love. In my opinion it's not a good idea though and I wouldn't want to do that. Neither sex is demanded to love someone or even make love. Of course it's one way to make love but there's so many other ways too. In my opinion the most important thing in loving someone is to care about him/her.

Sex can be a really good element in a love relationship but it shouldn't go over love, caring etc. I think you can compensate the lack of sex with love, but not vice versa.

Anyway, this is just thoughts of an immature 17-year-old boy who doesn't really have any experience or understanding about love nor sex...

I think that is all very personal. I would not say it is a 'sin' to have sex without love nor is it better by default. As long as you feel good about it, and wont regret it later on and the same goes for the one you are having the 'one night stand' or so with, then there is nothing wrong with it at all. Personally I dont do it because I dont feel very comfortable with it, but some people are, and for them it is alright to do. The only thing that matters is the feelings of you, and the other person.

Just make sure you don't get any STD's when you sleep with someone you only known for 3 days.

Originally posted by Alric
Just make sure you don't get any STD's when you sleep with someone you only known for 3 days.

Well no shit that's what protection is for.

I think it is better when you care about the person but hay, everyone is different I guess.

I guess you can have sex without love, but why would you want to do that? I could never be intimate and comfortable with someone I didn't know.....It would be scary, to me, to have sex with someone I didn't love deeply.....I guess some people are comfortable with it, but I know I could never be.

na, me neither, becasue no matter how much i told myself it was just sex, it could never be, because of the type of person i am, i would unconciously give something emotional away, share that 'something' with someone who might not be worthy of it.
Nope, i'm afraid for me it has to be making love, rather than sex...

I could probably have sex without love, but I prefer to get to know the guy first, a lot of people just jump right into bed without a thought and I'm cool with that, I just like to woo him first. I'm a hopeless romantic at heart.

i believe that there both totaly different sex with love and sex without love soo different its hard to compare which is better or worse .......

This subject is something that greatly confuses me.

I guess sex as just sex can be alot of fun. I'm sure you can get the greatest sex ever with someone you hardly know. I dunno, I cant really compare, but the thing that made my experiences absolutely mindblowing was because it was so intimate, so passionate, personal, so affectionate. Its not just sex. Its the whole deal around it. foreplay/afterplay are just as important, because of the affection, genuine care... Passion, kissing. Thats what made it so awesome, very emotional.

I really cant imagine all that with someone i've just met. Then its stripped down to the bare minimum, selfish, no involvement, nothing more. Sure, I wouldn't deny when offered, its better then masturbation, but hardly more meaningfull. No doubt it'll be fun and very satisfying in its own way. I guess. Yet .... although i've got no base to compare, it seems to fade in comparison to sex when there's more involved then just that. But what the fuck do I know.

Well I guess speaking from a purely sexual perspective...it won't matter if I have known you for 5 years or 3 days...if you don't have the equipment necessary then sex is going to be mediocre...if you do...then sex will be awesome.

So to compare...with a guy for 3.5 years, in love, average equipment = great sex
Knew guy for 3 days...not in love, but extremely in lust, amazing equipment and stamina = mind blowing sex

It really IS hard to compare the two.
Sorry that's just the way it is...for me at least.

Sex is just an activity lovers commonly do. To relate love and sex is just a societal opinion.

It depends on the value of the people participating and the circumstances that makes the sex great or not. I personally would not have sex with someone I knew for 3 days.

Originally posted by Yume
I personally would not have sex with someone I knew for 3 days.

You know it's interesting because...typically neither would I. That was the only time something like that has ever happened, and this thread has caused me to question why exactly I did that? Funny thing...I went to check my AOL inbox today and I found about 20 GOOD ASS reasons for why I did.

Here are TWO:



That last one is a big one for all the ladies, gays, a bisexuals on the forum haha. Seriously someone slap me I can't stop drooling. Ahhhhh...I really need to check out airfare to England...

:bravo:

That is what I call a good time. You can do whatever you want. If I was you I wouldn't regret it either

Holy hell, he's in England? *goes to hunt him down*

Like I said, I prefer to get to know a guy first, but I guess, sometimes one night stands are okay. Like Nina said, she knew the guy for three days, which is batter than just jumping right in after a cheesy chat up line like, 'Get ya coat love, you've pulled'.

Originally posted by Yume
Sex is just an activity lovers commonly do. To relate love and sex is just a societal opinion.

It depends on the value of the people participating and the circumstances that makes the sex great or not. I personally would not have sex with someone I knew for 3 days.

That is very true. We attached the two.
But our advanced emotional capcity I guess has given us an opprotunity to combine the two and make it more than just a primitive action to reproduce.

For me, sex is always better if love is involved: When you love someone, you're taking everything positive about that feeling and....well....adding Sex on top of it....Can't go wrong.
Sex without love, but with attraction. Hell, thats always good too, but you gotta make sure you either trust where the other person is coming from....or you want it bad enough to face the consequences if something horrible happens.
Sex without love Or attraction: ........the hell are you thinkin?

And I don't think either are 'morally' or 'sinfully' wrong, as long as you're both single.

I heard somewhere that sex is a trick in the mind .A trick of nature to get us to reproduce.

Originally posted by dreamtamer007
I heard somewhere that sex is a trick in the mind .A trick of nature to get us to reproduce.

No actually they say that love (not sex) is a trick of nature to try to get us to stay together and procreate. That's why all that crazy physiological stuff happens when you are in "love". (Like your eyes get dialated...etc.)

Originally posted by irishcream
na, me neither, becasue no matter how much i told myself it was just sex, it could never be, because of the type of person i am, i would unconciously give something emotional away, share that 'something' with someone who might not be worthy of it.
Nope, i'm afraid for me it has to be making love, rather than sex...

I used to say the same thing. I could never imagine sex without love. I personally think that if we are talking strictly sex... it can be great without love, I mean REALLY great. Well, because that's all it is, no strings attached, if you can handle that. But trust me I am not totally condoning sex without love because I happen to be all for love. I just believe that we should not believe ourselves bad for being what we were created as... sexual beings!

Ok so now for the "Making Love" part... while i think that sex can be awesome without love it can be equally if not more awesome because of that added emotion. If we are so lucky to be "doing it" with someone we love that is a special gift.

Both are different and can't really be compared. There may come a time in everyone’s life (and I am sure there will) that all we want is the feeling (just sex) but we all strive for love!!!!

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That is very true. We attached the two.
But our advanced emotional capcity I guess has given us an opprotunity to combine the two and make it more than just a primitive action to reproduce.Yea and it isn't neccissarily a bad thing either. Two components of life can be better than one depending on a situation.