Tell her that you're an atheist. |
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My best friend is bringing up the issue of me not going to church more and more these days. Now, let's look at me for a minute. I'm a kind and giving person, I don't break laws, I'm happy, I'm strong, and I don't have enough time for church. Why on earth should I go, then?? |
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Tell her that you're an atheist. |
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I live in your philosophy and religion forums.
She'll f-ing think my soul is in danger, and plus she'll be really sad. I'd rather not. |
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disown |
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I would probably say that I'm an atheist and if she freaked, I'd stand my ground and remind her that I'm entitled to my own opinion and view of the world. Besides, God gave us free will, right? So we're exercising that free will by being atheists. :] |
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This is similar to my own situation, sort of. A friend of mine has a girlfriend that is very religious, and she has a friend that is a religio-nut that is a psycho-bitch. Fortunately his girlfriend doesn't get concerned in other people's beliefs (I think). |
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The worst thing that can happen to a good cause is, not to be skillfully attacked, but to be ineptly defended. - Frédéric Bastiat
I try to deny myself any illusions or delusions, and I think that this perhaps entitles me to try and deny the same to others, at least as long as they refuse to keep their fantasies to themselves. - Christopher Hitchens
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You're right, I just need to stand my ground. Be firm but gentle. Otherwise this won't stop. Do they think they're on some holy mission or something, trying to convert other people? |
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Do not make her choose between you and god, but make sure she knows how you feel about the subject. Make sure she knows that you would still like to be friends even though you don't share the same belief and that you hope she will come to the same conclusion and respect how you feel. You shouldn't just put up with her trying to convert you though, because all that says is that she isn't really friends with you for who you are, but rather because of who she wants you to be. If she can't accept you, then she isn't a good friend, nor is she a good christian anyway. You may remind her that the bible teaches acceptance, and that only god can be a judge. |
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Art
The ability to happily respond to any adversity is the divine.
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It's a hard choice; I would tend to agree with telling her your an atheist and if she freaks and doesn't want to be friends anymore then she wasn't a good friend to begin with. But that's easier said over the Internet by someone who's not in that position. |
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Originally Posted by Photolysis
A situation I can relate very well to. I come from a deeply religious family. My family holds high positions in the churches so yeah...I definitely know where you're coming from. My cousin would constantly (and still does) minister to me about Jesus etc. and I used to get pretty annoyed with him. I'm not annoyed with him (as much) today and I listen to him because I know his heart is in the right place. He is only loving me the best way he knows how and the best way he was taught/raised. He strongly believes that salvation comes through Jesus Christ and therefore the best way he can help me in life is by making sure I understand that. He's coming from a position of love, not a position of "Let me annoy him today". If you understand that about your friend perhaps your heart will soften as well. |
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Things are not as they seem
Jesus didn't go to church... |
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"Reject common sense to make the impossible possible." -Kamina
Art
The ability to happily respond to any adversity is the divine.
Dream Journal Shaman Apprentice Chronicles
As someone has posted before, don't make her choose between you and God because I can gaurentee that she will choose God. I wouldn't even tell her that your an atheist because one of two things will hapen, she'll either ditch you for your 'bad' influence or intensify her efforts. Just tell her that you appreiciate her concern. Be firm but gentle. |
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Infinitly greater than you are... Damn that missing E.
I believe in honesty |
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lik most have said, just talk to her, if she is a true friend, she will listen. |
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Scream at him. |
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This was that cult, and the prisoners said it had always existed and always would exist, hidden in distant wastes and dark places all over the world until the time when the great priest Cthulhu, from his dark house in the mighty city of R'lyeh under the waters, should rise and bring the earth again beneath his sway.
I am more likely to find myself on the other side of this problem, being a rather hardcore (if not "traditional") Christian myself, but I understand where you are coming from. |
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She just wants you to drink the Kool-Aid with her, is all |
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Tell her you are an atheist and give her a copy of The God Delusion by Richard Dawkins. |
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ok, I usually wouldn't recommend this, but have her blaze a joint. |
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