Thread: I still can't get it right

I'm so relieved that girls liked my post. Because the principles are actualy inspired from a man that teach men to bed girls, so he is not very adored by feminists. You might have heard of it, Real Social Dynamics. You can take a look at his videos to get a sense of the freedom I talk about, but keep in mind he is a man and is teaching men so it's very macho and manly. But I assure you what he teach are UNIVERSAL principles that applies to everyone (and everything), which made me happy to see that you girls could resonate with it as well!

Here he talks about process orientation or enjoying the action for the action itself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1tiiv4Wg7M

The funny thing is that by going out and approaching my fears in social interactions (especially with girls) I have realized that boys and girls ARE experiencing the same kind of insecurities, but then they need to blame something so they blame the other sexes. o. O

Both boys and girls ARE insecure about their looks, money and status! Even the hot ones..

However the solution to get both boys and girls or as it actually should be expressed INDIVIDUALS to become interested in you, well then you have to be SELF-RELIANT and secure. Ok little boy or little girl so you are insecure about your looks? Well have you EVER tried to approach someone and talked with them and perhaps done a little flirting? "Yea a few times... and it didn't WORK!" Really... a few times? What if I told you that flirting has nothing to do with your personality (well to some extent) but it is just like learning to lucid dream or to play a guitar, it's a skill! You can't get the hang of it the first time. It's not that you learn to control another person, you learn to control your own mind.

Not being in control feels bad and what do you do then?

You blame your looks, you blame your techniques, you blame the other sexes, you blame SOMETHING.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D_Vg4uyYwEk

How do you expect something or someone to get attracted to you when you are not BEING you?!!

Instead you are some inscure needy version of yourself that WANTS stuff. Focus on the giving and the appreciation!

A man said to the master, “I want Happiness.”
The master said, first remove “I”, that’s ego,
then remove “want”, that’s desire.
See now you are left with only Happiness.

You do this by removing the EGO from the practise and then by focusing on enjoying the action itself instead of desiring a result.

SEX is TABOO and LUCID DREAMING is TABOO for most people because A. they either believe it is imposssible or B. Instead of admitting that they also can do it, they rationalize and blame and judge other things or people.

Sex is for me like holding someones hand, a giving of love and appreciation, although it's alot more fun. But for some of my guy friends they are either amazed by the fact that I can talk to a stranger HAVE FUN and end up having sex with her, and to some people I am a douchebag. And girls who do the same are simply judged as sl*ts.. Which is why a douchebags and a s*ut are a perfect fit. But don't get me wrong there are people out there not respecting themselves or their bodies but my point here is that it is not carved in stone. You are not a douchebag or a sl*t for enjoying sex (as long as you are honest and clear with your intentions), but you sure as hel* will be called one so you might as well just own the nickname.

To summarize the path to self-reliance and attraction: Manage your looks the best you can then let it go, (Work out) - Read books about positivity and success (books) -> Let go of your stupid hindering thoughts that doesn't help you anyway (Meditate) -> APPROACH PEOPLE!

Lucid dreaming is the same A. people believe it is impossible or B. Instead of admitting that they also can do it, they rationalize and blame and judge other things or people.

The WILD process for me now is the act of loving myself and showing appreciation to the moment. Most people judge themselves during this process because they can't simply let go of their ego and this affect them their whole life. The definition of being happy is as the pattern that I am trying to define: being happy with the person that you are and becoming, when you can do this truely the WILD process is not even about the lucid dreaming anymore.

Last night I tried this out by just letting go of everything, I was even sitting in a half lotus posture. And I meditated for 1 hour! New personal record!

I had set 1 hour as my goal but approached the practise in a freedom from outcome mind so when the alarm rang I fell asleep normally.

I hope my comparisons are not too off topic, I am simply trying to use other examples to make it easier for people to relate and also show that this mindset can be used for anything.