I am very confused.
My 17 year old son just came out to me through a letter. He said it's been bothering him for a long time.
He's never shown any real interest in girls because his standards are impossible. He's adamant that he's not gay.

These may seem like silly questions but:
How is being Transgender different than being a cross-dresser?

If he's not into guys, would that make him a lesbian?

I don't see him ever being able to afford treatment for hormones or surgery so ??? I don't even know what to think?

My daughters wouldn't care less about their brothers identity. My oldest daughter is bi. I hypothetically asked my oldest son what his reaction would be and he said he couldn't care less.
How do I help my TG son realize his family isn't going to judge him?

I realize that not all girls are into girly things. But my TG son wants to be a bounty hunter. He's into guns and things traditionally meant for "males". He's aggressive (video games etc). I don't see him as feminine. At All.
How did he come to such a serious conclusion?

What can he expect from society?

What kind of future love life can he expect?

Thanks. I'm sure I'll have a million more questions later. Those are just the ones off the top of my head.