Thread: Tell me about this thing called cheating.

Originally Posted by Universal Mind

However, I also see where the cheaters are coming from. I think that expecting a person to have sex with just you and nobody else ever as long as the two of you are together is asking for something gigantic, and I would almost say that it is unrealistic to expect it. Again, I understand why people would expect it, but the will to have sexual variety, especially for men (due to nature's "spread the seed" principle) is so damn powerful that a person is almost defeating the forces of nature by adhering to monogamy. I don't really understand how anybody does it. Such an idea feels unnatural to me personally, but if others can be about it, then I can respect that. I have never led a woman to believe that she would be 100% it. I have told several women early on that I am not the commitment type and that I can't make any promises. Some of those situations turned into relationships where freedom was involved. In stating that I wanted my freedom, I of course in turn gave the women their freedom, and I never felt jealous over the idea of one of them sleeping with somebody else. I think sex and romance are two things that often go together but that they are not the same thing. A relationship with that perspective is the only kind I will have. I don't want to live a lie and end up hurting somebody. If I ever get married, which I probably won't, it will have to be an open marriage. I couldn't deal with anything else. Eternity is a very long time.

Wow, you and I are wired completely differently. I can't understand the perspective of not committing 100%. I won't argue what you said, I just can't grasp it.