Thread: I have been practicing lucid dream almost 2 months but did not work, please help me :(

I wonder what kind of information in the lucid dream community that seems to make new people see lucid dreaming in a black and white kind of manner.

To lucid dream you can't just read a tutorial and follow the steps and expect to have frequent success with attaining lucidity.

I am going to use my favourite analogy of picking up girls because I used to be a hardcase newbie in that area too and I was thinking in the exact same ways as I did as a beginner of lucid dreaming. However I never made the connection, until this year and oboy I got result everywhere because I didn't only find the formula for result in lucid dreaming and pickingup girls, I found the formula of the success itself!

As a newbie I knew that the first step was to approach a person and actually dare to talk to one. So I tried to find the BEST way to approach a girl.
Read lots of theories and learned tons of pickup lines. I did this in the day and I got rejected 27 times in a row! But then on my 28:th and 29:th approach I got two numbers and on my 30:th approach I actually got a makeout. When I thought back I realized that the only reason to why I could accomplish something like that on the three last approaches was because I behaved differently. I had learned by my 27 rejections what worked and what didn't so in a big picture the theories and the pickup lines wasn't the reason to my success, but the lessons from my failures was. So the theories and techniques was just tools for me to learn.
Then later on I actually got a date with some girl I had cold approached, but I was nervous and anxious because I wanted to kiss her but I had no idea of how and I got into my head and thought that I hadn't been funny enough to kiss her (like that would matter...) fear makes you stupid.

I realized I was pretty much friendzoned so I just dropped the thought completely, but then the girl I was nervous to kiss suddenly just starts to makeout with lots of guys on the dancefloor. I was shocked! However by this time I was no longer focused on the result but on the journey and process of learning, so I didn't got mad or got butthurt over it, instead I just thought "huh.. so kissing isn't that big of a deal as I thought?".

Then I went out with some friends another night and that night I kissed a girl and had an amazing night. And then I realized that I would never dare to do that if I hadn't had that expeirence with the girl I went on a date with.

And now I approach girls naturally, talk naturally and kiss them naturally. And everytime I have an awesome night or result, I realize that the failures are like the pieces of that puzzle that is keeping it together. It's like building a puzzle where you can't see the whole picture yet, you just get one piece at the time and start to build it.
Every failure you have is a piece of the puzzle, and when you finish the puzzle you can look back and enjoy the failures you have had, because you realize that they were lessons.

Now you might wonder what this has to do with lucid dreaming. And well the process of failing and learning is exactly the same for lucid dreaming!
When I had finished my approach anxiety puzzle I realized that it was the exact same process of solving the recall problem puzzle.

But I guess you see where I am going with this.

There are no pickup lines or techniques that works! And there are no lucid dreaming mantras or techniques that will make you lucid.

They are just tools to help you change and learn and understand on your own.

So don't read a WILD technique and fully trust that it will work, instead just think "I'll do it and see what happens" and learn from whatever you are doing.

So don't think of it in terms of working or not working, but rather in terms of what can I learn by doing this?

There is a deeper meaning behind everything that you want to learn for example for pickup all a guy need is showing that he knows how to have fun and invite the girls to his fun. For lucid dreaming you need awareness and understand how it feels etc. For a newbie this isn't something you can just explain or snap your fingers and learn to do in a day or even a week. A newbie needs to go through the process to actually become that kind of person himself. Again the techniques doesn't work on their own, there is no pickup line that works on every single girl and there is no lucid dreaming technique that works every single night.

The ridiculous pickup lines and the cool lucid dreaming techniques only helps you to learn on your own.

You can't trick a girl to like you, you have to behave and be like the kind of person that has the qualities that makes girls like you. And the tools and techniques are just ways to make you understand how to become that person yourself. You can't push a button or trick your mind into becoming aware, you are consciousnes and are aware, the tools and techniques are just ways to make you understand how to direct that awareness yourself.

I have practised lucid dreaming for 5-6 years and pickup only 1 year of actively going out.

So it is easy for me to say just go ahead and fail bro and learn it's easy! Because I got the reference experience of how failures makes me learn and grow. All I am doing here is giving you the core element of successful thinking.

TL : DR

People that quit are short-term focused (I want a lucid dream now!), (I want a girl now!).
People that succeed FREQUENTLY are the people who are longterm focused and have gone through the journey and had many failures, and therefore have solved many puzzles (I want to learn!).

Focus on change and you will get result, focus on result and you will never change.

I hope that this weird analogy made sense.

And I wish you many failures and valuable lessons