What I have noticed is very effective for remaining in the game is to set one high goal and then set low goals and low expectations to get there.
This actually has more to do with motivation, but is still touching the goal setting process. And this idea might save you lots of pain and frustration.
However perhaps the pain and frustration is necessary in order for this tip to be effective but here goes:
Have LOW expectations and you will never feel bad. And as sivasion said (which is a stoic beautiful thought) Only focus on what you can CONTROL.
For example I aim high and my goal is to eventually be able to lucid dream every night by having the knowledge of how to do just that.
However it's not realistic for me to think that I will learn that in a week, a month or even a year.
So what I do is that I focus on what I can control which is for example, consistent practise with a method that I like.
While doing this I just observe my experience and do not expect to get some grandiose result.
The only goal is to practise with consistency.
My choice of approach to this is meditation, so my goal is not: to get a lucid dream through meditation. Or to get some cool experience through meditaiton.
My goal is: Meditate daily and nightly regularly. Or as a more concrete goal: 30 days, 90, days etc.
If I achieve these I am happy, that is my own criteria of success.
However now when I have set this criteria of which that I am in control of, I will not hesistate to beat myself up if I violate this.
But as long as I stay on my path I trust the process and that it will turn out for the best.
Over time I can evaluate if this is an effective approach or not, but NOT from the get go.
So formulate a plan of controlable actions that you believe in and aim for conistency.
You can compare this to working out. If you spend more time evaluating your work out routine than the time you actually spend training, it doesn't matter what plan you have. The key is conistency, have this thought: If I actively practise this for 11 years EVERY day it's IMPOSSIBLE to not improve.
Hope this helps and have fun!
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