Thank you for your advice.
Yes, I am making notes and getting to know myself and my sleep better. Sometimes it's like every day surprises me. Yesterday I tried VILD again and failed, today I was too lazy, kept self-awareness for 10 minutes to see if I am in the mood for WILD, was too lazy for that too, so I simply told myself "if I see something, it's a dream" as a catch-all for both WILD transition and DILDs and got two DILDs out of it, which almost shocked me because I gave some time to textbook MILD (mantras, imagining getting lucid) before and it did nothing for me.
I think for both WILDs and DILDs, the answer for me is simply being relaxed about it, not trying too hard. And the same for DEILD, it's like I can't do it when I really want to and then I do it almost by accident when I don't care.
Which means it all should get much better and easier the more I get used to it. I like that idea.
I already do tiny WBTBs (natural awakenings only, sometimes bathroom break) and I work from home and can sleep as much as I want. So it's really all in my head and I also need to get more relaxed about it.