Terrible "Coincidence."

[Oneironaut Zero]

Not even sure why I posted this, or if it's in the right section, but really I'm just kind of over it, right now. ================= [Note: I have just found out that my buddy Marcus, the one who I'd "killed" in my "Surreal Tournament" dream the other night, has actually passed away, over the weekend. As tragic as this is, I cannot help but notice the coincidences it raises. I've never focused too much on dream interpretation, but the synchronicities are kinda interesting, some of which may take a little backstory.] 1) Before my father died, last year, I had a dream in where I was on a plane. On the plane when I asked where I was headed, someone told me that I'd died in my sleep, and this was the "plane to heaven." This dream was followed by a false awakening in which I awoke in my bed, relieved that the news I'd received was just a dream, and then rolled over to find my "body" laying beside me. I was still dead, and back in my room as a spirit in this FA. My parents came in to the room and found me dead in my bed, and began to mourn over me while I could do nothing but stand over them as a spirit and watch them greive. This was probably the single, most powerful dream I've ever had, and the only dream specifically about a death in my home that I've had since I was a kid. Significance: My father died, at home, in his sleep, while my mom and I were there, almost a month later, to the day. 2) I've only seen my dad in my dreams a handful of times after he died, and usually he's trying to hint something to me. I find out often that he tries to get me to guess that I'm dreaming, by asking me stuff like "don't you find it strange that you're talking to me right now?" Significance: My dad just happened to show up in the only dream with Marcus in it, that I've ever had. 3) I ended up "killing" Marcus in the dream. This is somewhat significant in more than one way. Not only did the only dream I've ever had of him signify his death, and happen 3 days before his death, but in the dream, this situation was metaphorically similar to our relationship. I'd met him through his roomate, who I'd already become pretty good friends with. In my dream, they were both there, along with many of my other friends who aren't really a part of the circle involving these two. In the dream all of us (basically everyone I know) were having a life-fire gunfight that was reminiscent (sp) of the only game that Marcus, his roomate and I ever play together on the 360, which was a first person shooter. Out of everyone involved, it ended up with the three of us on one level of the multi-storied building. Before I'd gone up through the stairwell to the level above marcus, the other guy on our level (who I'm assuming was Marcus's roomate, because he had the exact same build, though I don't remember seeing his face) did something that I remembered after writing the dream in my journal, but didn't feel was significant enough to go back in and add, which was jump straight up to the next floor by standing close to one of the edges (there were very few walls in the building) and jumping straight up on the outside of the building and grabbing the floor of the next level, pulling himself up chin-up style. Trapped in the stairwell, I'd taken the stairs and gone up to the same level to get away from Marcus who was shooting at me with his assault rifle. From above, I was able to get the advantage and shoot down through a hole in the floor to the level Marcus was on, killing him and getting the point. Significance: This stands out because, in waking life, Joe and Marcus were good friends, and I met Joe first. Marcus had been going through hard times lately. Cause of death is not important, but I will say it was not suicide. Anyway, I find it interesting that, out of the three of us that were having the firefight, Joe and I both "ascended" to the next level, while Marcus stayed on the level below and, having that as his disadvantage, was killed. I'll make no assumptions about this dream, but I do find that there are enough coincidences to remember it, in light of what's happened, and I figure it belongs here as well as anything else.]

[italianmonkey]

i feel very sad for your loss. would like to say something, but even if i knew what to say, i would'nt be able to translate it in english. i kind of know how it feels like to share a friend's death in the only place whereone feels safe, his own dreams. and i'm a little worried about something happened to me two nights ago, and i don't WANT to find out. the only soothing thing i can see... sort of a game, playing toghether, even if a "bad" way maybe this is related to friendship, sort of a thread, something anyway good... dunno really

[pj]

I'm very sorry for your loss. Count it joy that you shared as much of life as you did with your friend. Friends are true treasure... and Marcus will always be part of who you are. Remember these things and keep observing. As the years have gone by, I've found it harder and harder to believe in coincidences.

[Oneironaut Zero]

Thanks to both, but I do have to say that the loss is much less mine than it is my other friend's, who was Marcus's roomate and best friend for years. I, myself, have only known him for a few months, but still appreciate your words. I suppose I'm just really blown away by the synchronicities (sp) in how the dream can be interpretted in relevance to things that have happened in waking life. Originally posted by italianmonkey and i'm a little worried about something happened to me two nights ago, and i don't WANT to find out. Anything you care to share?

[wombing]

hmm...strange. and intruiging. will be sending your friend love whenever this situation passes my mind...

[Gwendolyn]

That is so weird, Oneironaut. I am very sorry that this happened though. Tragedies are far too common these days. Anyway, if you need anyone to talk to...I am here!

[italianmonkey]

nothing really important i hope. dreamt of a person i don't see since years and was very similar to when i dream to meet dead people. i asked him how is it to be dead, he said not that bad. but i have no reasonable reasons to worry about him. think it's nothing. and anyway don't want to find out.

[poeticDreamer]

My prayers go out to you and Joe; I've never lost anyone I'm even remotely close to and can't imagine how it must feel. Nor can I imagine how it feels for your dream to be so easily interpreted into the circumstances...it must be surreal. I'd be watching for Marcus to show up in your dreams again sometime soon...

[Oneironaut Zero]

Originally posted by italianmonkey nothing really important i hope. dreamt of a person i don't see since years and was very similar to when i dream to meet dead people. i asked him how is it to be dead, he said not that bad. but i have no reasonable reasons to worry about him. think it's nothing. and anyway don't want to find out. Yeah, I don't know if I'd want to know, either. :neutral: To PoeDre: Very surreal. I mean, I don't care what anyone believes about reality or what religions or philosophies they follow. There are some situations that just make you stop and say: "Whoa...What the f'uck." Stopped by to visit Joe and his girl on the way home. I'd been telling him about the dream on Friday night, which was the last time we were all together with Marcus, but it didn't get any deeper than "Damn I had this cool-ass dream that we were all playing a live-fire weapons game together!" But today, I actually had a chance to go back over the details I'd left out because they were irrelevant at the time, and he said it gave him chills.