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I AM SORRY �� I should have mentioned this at the Start That I am an ADDICT

After Reading your post about Caffeine I tried stopping Caffeine Drinking in the Night for 1 - 2 Nights
PLUS i went to sleep at 10pm instead of 2am
And Yes I did have Dreams
But for some reason I did not write it down

So I will Follow your Suggestion

Thanks a lot ��

Do you have to give 100% at everything?
Can you give 90, 80, 70% perhaps?
Or break it down, so that the expectation doesn't have to be so important.
Maybe even do a little bit at a time.
You could do 100% of a little bit, be it 10%, instead of 100% of all of it, being 100%.
Think of a circle, and cut it, into pieces, like that a cake.
have one small piece, take a break, and then have another small piece.
Does any of that work for you?

About your lack of dream recall.

You say you are playing computer games at night before work, yes? Are you using a blue light filter? I ask because blue light emitted by electronic devices acts like caffeine to the brain. It messes with our circadian rhythm. That rhythm is absolutely precious for maintaining dream recall. Try getting a filter for all devices so that it's orange light only after sunset.

Also, make sure you are going to bed early enough and getting a good amount of sleep.

Also also, how much caffeine are you consuming? If it's a lot, you will want to cut back to no more than ~2 cups of coffee in the morning. I find it's detrimental if I consume caffeine after mid-morning - although others may not be affected as much. You will have to see for yourself.

Additionally, I find that green tea, when I drink it in excess (a pot or two), also inhibits dream recall somewhat. Other types of teas may be similar.


Other than that, I recommend writing down even fragments or scenery. Writing down anything will really help build recall. Be patient with yourself, and good luck.

\\I am writing here because I do not get the option to for new post\\

I have asked the staff about this and it seems that you should have the required permissions to make regular posts throughout the forum. If you're having a specific issue, you can either try going into more detail in the "Talk to Staff" sub-forum ( https://www.dreamviews.com/talk-staff/ ), because if you can post a DJ entry, then you can probably post there too. Or if there is some issue that doesn't let you post there either, you can go into more detail in a comment here, if you feel comfortable with that.

Also, three months isn't that long for lucid dreaming practise. Some people do have them naturally and frequently, for others it takes years. It can't be rushed, and putting a high expectation around the issue can make it worse, since it can make you doubt yourself. Trust in yourself is very important as part of the process of dreaming lucidly, as with many other skills in life.

what has triggered the deep fear of failure?

I always give my 100% and If I do not succeed at that then I become Easily deppressed...

When I'm trying to write in my dream journal but can't remember any dreams, often what I'll do is write down an old dream I haven't logged yet. Literally any dream from any time that comes to mind. Sometimes that will spontaneously trigger other dream memories including more recent ones, but more importantly it keeps my dream journaling habit alive when I'm short on material. It keeps that ability to remember dreams "muscle" exercised. It's also a way of keeping my motivation up and frustration down while waiting out a dry spell, which is important since frustration doesn't exactly help with getting more lucids or improving dream recall.

And for those times when journaling alone isn't enough to bridge the gap between my high interest in dreams and low recall/lucidity, I'll choose creative activities that allow me to appreciate my dream life while awake. For instance, I'll edit some of my favorite dream journal entries so the phrasing makes for a more entertaining read, like a story, and collect them in a physical binder so it looks like an almost official book. I'll add drawings of my favorite scenes and extra notes regarding my personal interpretations of the dream symbols and insights. When I don't feel like reminiscing, I'll write/draw/think about things I would like to do in a dream, a location I would like to create or return to, or a dream character I'd like to meet again. Basically, if your waking mind is temporarily more interested in dreams than your dreams are interesting, use that to your advantage and get creative. Personally I find that my subconscious always gets the hint sooner or later and starts providing me with a richer dream life.

what has triggered the deep fear of failure?

What you are describing sounds like a "pre-lucid" dream to me. While it may not be a fully lucid dream yet, this is great progress. Definitely treat it as such. It says that the topic is on your mind, and your awareness is building, you just may need a little more consciousness to get there.

You'll know when you have a true lucid dream. There's no mistaking it. It will probably not last long at first, and that's normal. It feels like an "aha moment." You might have an odd sensation such as prickly feeling or even vibrations. That's normal too. The main quality is that it will feel like you're completely awake and alive in this fantastical new world.

Good luck and I hope you get there soon. I know you will.

Yes it is okay to write only 3 words down in your dream journal, assuming you can't think of more details. Sometimes just writing a few words down spurs more memories and details to surface. It is better to put anything than nothing at all.

Your goal should be to start with 3 words, and build from there. After writing 3 words, see if you can write more the next night, even if it's just 4 words. If you blank, instead of trying to write down a narrative, write simple descriptions. Example: Setting. Person remembered. Action. Etc. So you could start with : My house (setting). Sister (person). Screams (action). Then later, fill it in with more details, if you can, during the day. You can convert that to : "I was in my house at night when my sister rushes in saying she heard someone screaming." Etc.

I do believe in writing over just trying to remember in your head. By writing, you are putting forth a certain amount of effort that tells your subconscious that dreams are worth remembering. It strengthens your intention to recall your dreams, and intention is everything. Your recall will improve if you write down all of your dreams and fragments.

BTW, when you say some night you don't dream, that is a common misconception. Every night we dream, we just don't always remember them. We usually have 3-5, or even more, dreams a night. Good luck!

Originally Posted by devotee013

I am not even able to imagine what a LD will be like ... I simply have zero clue.. because of which I am NOT able to Day Dream about LD because I dont know what to think of...
What will MY Lucid Dream will be like ??? No Idea.....

The feeling of being lucid seems to have some universal common factors between different people; for example you will probably feel very grounded in the moment during the dream when you are lucid, and you may also feel thrill and such in a way that non-lucids typically don't make you feel. I would guess that the exact feel varies from person to person, but the same person can also seem to have very different lucid experiences in different dreams; you can be more or less aware of your waking life details and still be lucid, for example.

do the words mean anything to you?

I think you need to give it more effort.
The aim is to remember multiple dreams every day.
Writing the dreams isn't the important part - you need to recall them. You can go over them in your head, you can draw them, create a mental map, voice recording, write them... whatever you want. Personally, I think writing helps with putting things (vague pictures, feelings, memories) together and making sense of them. The work you do putting your dream memories together is what counts.
You say you sometimes forget to write your dreams. Every time you wake up (in the morning or during the night), your first thought should be: "What was I dreaming about?" Stay in bed for a couple of minutes, start with your last memory and work backwards.
Also, think about your dreams during the day. Be obsessed with your dream life. Think about your dream characters and locations, look for connections between your dreams, find what's special about your dreams, study them. If you are into some kind of art, create art inspired by your dreams. Relive your dreams in your mind and daydream about getting lucid in them. Notice your dreamsigns and tell yourself that the next time you'll see them, you'll realize that you are dreaming.
Stay consistent in this work. Lucid dreams will come, sooner or later. Until that time - enjoy the game - which is dreaming.

Part of me wonders why this is so important to you; what is the value of lucidity for you?
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I am not even able to imagine what a LD will be like ... I simply have zero clue.. because of which I am NOT able to Day Dream about LD because I dont know what to think of...
What will MY Lucid Dream will be like ??? No Idea.....

Today in the night I was stressed out so I took 2 sleeping pills and went to sleep
But even thought I had taken sleeping Pills I was able to remember my dreams..
But I did get anywhere close to becoming Lucid

Today in the night I was stressed out so I took 2 sleeping pills and went to sleep
But even thought I had taken sleeping Pills I was able to remember my dreams..
But I did get anywhere close to becoming Lucid

Originally Posted by devotee013

I have a Deep FEAR OF FAILURE

And after i am not successful in LD i get DEPRESSED

When i am depressed I don't feel like doing ANYTHING ... I lie down on my Bed and keep Listening to music....

Please correct me if I make any incorrect assumptions.

I get the impression that you have a very strong desire to dream lucidly, and that this is affecting your mood negatively because you are not having any success.

Part of me wonders why this is so important to you; what is the value of lucidity for you?

And why do you have to see it as a binary success/failure? For example, with this dream you had, you say you didn't become lucid despite remarking that it was a dream. And maybe some part of you may have been aware that you were dreaming, and so could be why you said it. It may not be full lucidity, but even vague dream awareness like that can be considered a step forward. The only possible exception to this logic is if you are making a habit of saying such things as a mantra while awake, which can form a habit that doesn't actually consider your situation fully and with some depth.

Perhaps some advice there would be for you to decide that the next time you say words such as "this is a dream", you will remember to really think about your current situation and how it is (or isn't) dream-like.

Also, I still think you might benefit from making a post in the "introduction" part of the forum or the "attaining lucidity" section, because you may get more attention and comments there, especially if you are actively looking for help with these issues.

Originally Posted by aussiemusician

what video games do you play?

I have an old computer so I am playing 2d games ....
Rayman Origins
River City Girls
OwlBoy
Etc...

If I play games then I get Vivid Dreams
But for past 3 days i have not played Any Video games....

I have a Deep FEAR OF FAILURE

And after i am not successful in LD i get DEPRESSED

When i am depressed I don't feel like doing ANYTHING ... I lie down on my Bed and keep Listening to music....

I don't even feel like playing games or watch Anime ...
That is why I think for the past 3 days i have not played Any Video games..

I will start playing Video games but it would be Half Hearted

I have kept a Target for myself....
"I want to become a Lucid Dreamer by December 2022"

I think 1 year should be enough time to achieve my goal...

So please Help me ... I am open to Suggestions and Change..

Thanks 😊

it could be, that a computer game, like that of a dream, is not real.
its simulated.
what video games do you play?