i agree with joannab, but i think there's more to this dream than a generic sexual fantasy. there seems to be an undertone of sexual frustration here, and a fear of inadequacy.
i found it interesting how you and the woman only communicate nonverbally/telepathically. i would ascribe this to a rather literal anxiety about "saying the wrong thing" and perhaps a desire for connection with the opposite sex on a deeper level than can be accomplished through ordinary communication -- i'd assume you find yourself somewhat alienated from women and aren't able to relate to them very well, making relationships difficult for you (as you noted in your OP). the telepathy between you and her is your subconscious's attempt at ameliorating this insecurity.
another interesting thing is how you have little agency in the sex act -- the girl's half-undressed by the time you meet her, her garments remove themselves, and she - er - "assumes the position" immediately. sorry for the vulgarity... can't think of any other way to put it. again, it seems like you're afraid to assert yourself with girls in real life and your subconscious is compensating for that by just making everything happen.
the focus on the air conditioner slot is notable. i'm sure you can imagine what it might be a metaphor for! in the dream, it's associated with loss and anxiety... you can see how this might relate to your feelings towards sex.
finally, the interruption. i have to say -- freudian psychoanalysts would love this! i don't support freud's theories myself, but if you're curious, he would probably say that it signifies that you have failed to detach yourself from your mother, as all men must do to become fully mature and engage in mature relationships. as a child you associated your mother with love and, in a vague infantile way, with sexuality; as you grow older this should shift and you should come to identify more with your father. if you maintain a dependent relation to your mother into adulthood you will find yourself trapped in a pre-adolescent stage of emotional and sexual development; and you will find yourself repulsed by the idea of sexual activity with a woman because it reminds you of your mother.
of course, that's not really true! i'd say that being interrupted by your mother is just another manifestation of insecurity. i would have to know more about your family situation to say this definitively but there might also be themes of dependency interwoven here, i.e. you still consider yourself a child, not a full grown man, so you're insecure about your sexuality.
and then it all falls apart and the woman disappears. your dreams aren't going to just give you what you want: you'll have to go out and get it yourself.
i don't think there's any significance in having had more sexual dreams recently. the content of dreams doesn't always relate to what's been in your waking mind. although you'll probably end up thinking about sex more if you've just had a sexual dream... it's kind of a feedback loop.
hope this gives you some insight : }
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